Please give the best Christian answer?

Question

I want to apologize to someone I've wronged, but I'm at a point where I feel like I'm having a fight between good and evil with in my self. I'm fighting myself because, the person I wronged indeed did a lot of things that hurt me very bad some of which I haven't let go. So part of me wants to stay angry with him, and hold a grudge. But the good in me wants to just apologize for my terrible deed, and forgive him and ask him to forgive me. Cause I really feel life is to short to hold pitty grudges, when we could just say, "I'm Sorry". Someone recently told me that there is freedom in forgiveness and bondage in bitterness, Please help with some advice to end the fight within myself

Answer 1

First of all, know that God loves you without question. He sees the struggle within your heart over this situation. God honors your desire to do the right thing. Go before Him tonight in prayer and ask Him to show you what to do and give you the words to say. Allow God to guide you. He will. May God continue to bless you for seeking His will and desiring to follow His ways.

Answer 2

You have already answered your own question, which I think is rather unfair of you, but I forgive you! You need to find a way to let go of the anger or it will consume you. The good in you is what we call the Holy Spirit trying to guide you and allow for you to do what is right in the sight of God.

Make no mistake. Life is too short to hold giant grudges either. Who ever gave you the other advice on freedom in forgiveness was spot on and you should seek their council again if you ever have need of it.

Ephesians 4:26
"In your anger do not sin" : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,

Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Matthew 18:21-23
21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Answer 3

To error is human,to forgive divine.
Its better to say your sorry and get on with your life.Hatred eats at the soul.Pray and God will be with you and help you do the right thing.We are supposed to learn from our mistakes.Sometimes its hard to get passed things that really hurt us and even when we forgive the wrong we still remember it.Hopefully The other person feels the same way,but that might not be the case.Good luck and I`ll say a prayer for you.God Bless.

Answer 4

First thing first. There are steps and phases you need to go through in order to apologize. Don't just jump in there and apologize. No wonder you can't do it because before you can run, you need to walk first. Before you can walk you need to stand up first.

Here are some of the things you can do:

1. Handle one thing at a time. You need to forgive him first. Come on, life is too short to be angry with the person. After all, we are all not perfect. Yes we could have choosen to do otherwise but what was done was done. Better still, the person might even repeat it because he/she did not realize that it is wrong. Sometimes, they repeat it even after we have told and explain to them that their actions were hurtful. If they still repeat, then, we have to accept it as we cannot change their actions or their thinking. Ask God for the Serenity to accept the things that you cannot change.

2. Courage to change the things that you can. You can choose to truly forgive and forget. You can bandage your pain with love. You can look at all things with love. You can truly and sincerely forgive the person with all your heart. You can walk over and apologize. Ask God for the courage to change the things you can.

3. In the end, we will still have to rely on the one source of all things which is God himself. For it is through Him, with Him and in Him we live our live. We owe it all to God to choose our actions and live with its consequences. Hold on to Love for it is all that it takes to heal and to forgive.

Answer 5

Just do it. (sounds easy, I know)
You are so right - life is way too short to hold grudges.
And it will release you from bitterness.
You really do have it right - just a note here to encourage you.
And you will be blessed. Plus it says if we don't forgive, God says he won't forgive us. Do a word search in your BIble about forgiveness and then look up all the verses...God will confirm to you what you already have told us above. God bless! See below:

Answer 6

Well, first of all, it won't hurt anything to apologize. Apologizing basically means you won't do it again. And seeing the dilemma you are in, I'm sure you won't. But apologizing doesn't mean you have to just totally forget about it and pretend like it never happened. Then you didn't learn a lesson, and you get into that whole "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" kind of thing.

What do you think is the right thing to do?

Answer 7

I just remember what Jesus said that if we do not forgive others He does not forgive us. So I want to be forgiven for my sins against God so I make things right with others and totally forgive them. When I do the joy is much greater than the bitterness of hanging on to it.

Answer 8

Take your time and realize people make mistakes. Don't try to be perfect, God doesn't expect you to be. I suggest going with yer gut on this one. If you want to forgive the guy do so and move on. If not blow it off and forget the guy since he screwed you before.

What is important is to communicate with God and listen. He will guide you in the future and teach you from past experience. It is not essential to be perfect, but important to learn from the life God has given.

God Bless and Merry Christmas!

Answer 9

You say they have hurt you. Can you forgive them? To forgive does not mean to forget, it means you no longer hold their offense against them. It may be easier to apologize once you have dealt with your own hurt.

Answer 10

If you wanna be Christian-like, then you should apologize even if you don't feel like it because in the bible it tells us that when people slap us on one cheek, we should turn the other cheek.