Since when do people give this response to a gift?

Question

A group of people and I were doing a thing where we anonymously give Christmas presents to each other. I picked the name of someone I don't really know well and don't particularly like but I gave some nice $5 chocolate.

I got a response that she was dieting and I must not have known it so she will serve it to her guests. No thank you or anything.

If it were you, would you write back, ignore it, forward it to the gift program coodinator and mention that you are declining to participate next year, or what? I feel it was uncalled for and mean after I spent money on this person and a long time picking out the gift.

Hmm, but maybe the best revenge is simply to use this as a motivation to work harder on my own diet so that I will end up looking waaaaay skinner? In fact, could this be the reason for the mean response (sour grapes)?

Answer 1

Ha, I bet she lied, She probably just TOLD you she was going to serve them to her guests. She probably woofed the whole box down by herself in one sitting, LOL

Answer 2

Since people were distracted, angry at you or just tactless. That was not really an appropriate response, in any case a thank you should have been attached.
I, personally, would let it go. Because though it may be really annoying now, come next year it will probably seem trivial, and you will regret not participating (if the gift program coordinator even remembers you declined).
If this is motivation to be healthier, go for it! (Whatever gets you going in the morning) But don't start a vendetta unless you really want to start a vendetta. They get stressful, tiring, and theres way too much paperwork if you start a blood feud.
In closing, show that you are above little ms. tactless by being extra courteous for a little while around her, and then its a moral victory any way you slice it.

peace,
eric

Answer 3

Those secret santa things are always so stressful. I always draw the name of someone I have no clue about. She should have appreciated that there are inherent difficulties and that you don't often wind up with the ideal gift in these situations.

She should have just said "thanks, I'll put these to good use." No need to tell you what that use was. Now I wouldn't pass this info along to the coordinator- it'll just make you look petty. If anyone ASKS you about it though- then it's fair game. If you behave in a totally polite manner, it'll make you look better than she, so you can add that to your diet plan. Just don't go all anorexic or anything. Everyone should have a good chocolate once in a while.

Answer 4

Rude Yes, but I quit giving gifts of food a few years ago unless I really know what the person likes. Seems the whole world is on a diet of some kind.

Answer 5

I'm guessing there was a $5 limit on the gift. If you could of spent more then would you of got something different? If the limit was $5 then a box of candy was sort of OK. If it was more then she might of bought the person she gave a gift to something nice and felt hurt by the cheap gift for you.

Candy is not considered a good gift. Now a gift certificate for candy is OK.

So I guess I side with her and feel the gift was not a thoughtful one. So if you only give to people you like then you shouldn't be on the exchange. BTW what did you git?

Answer 6

Dale Carnegie once said "expect the ingrate and you'll never be disappointed only happily surprised when gratitude is extended."
This is one living point that is tough to learn but very true, especially in society today, when ingratitude is the normal.
A true is gift is something given from the heart without expectations of any sort, why waste time with something as empty as revenge, if you want to drop pounds do so because you want to and its for your health. Why concern yourself with what others have to say? you put value to others words, therefore - if you don't know them - barely know them or they are just associates - why put stock in what they say? disregard them and carry on in life

Answer 7

People are rude. Even if she didn't like it, she could have just said thank you. Telling you she was not going to eat it is uncalled for. I think you should use it as motivation on your diet so you will look better than her.

Answer 8

She should not have mentioned the part about her being on a diet and your not knowing. She could have said "Thank you for the chocolates. I shared them with some friends and we all thought they were delicious."

Answer 9

it was a bit rude, but we all do things like this.
i just got a call from a friend of mine whose party i went to last week. someone called her to ask who i was (the rude girl is what i was called). i kept asking people their names and how they knew the host (all smiley and in a good mood). someone thought i was rude because i didn't introduce myself. oops! i must have forgotten that part. oh well, better luck being non offensive next year, i guess.

she did lie. i saw her go out to the parking lot and shove them in all at once! (great answer)

Answer 10

I'd ignore it. I'd mutter what a b*tch she is and then move on. Maybe you can get really really delicious food, eat it in front of her face, savor the taste, and then say loudly that it's too bad that SOME people can't eat it because they're on a "diet." That's what I'd do.

Answer 11

That was really rude of her. All she had to do to be polite was to smile and thank you and move on. She could have secretly thrown the box candy anyway after that if she wanted to and it wouldn't have mattered. Sounds like she needs to work on her personality instead of her weight. :)