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Question

There is a woman in my church that I just don't like she is very nasty and a very angry person and she is forever yelling at her kids and she is very rough around the edges.

There was a party at one of the church members home and I was asked to give her a ride with her 2 kids and she called me on my cell phone and I reluntacntly gave her a ride there along with her two kids

I was annoyed at someone in my church for giving her my cell number and when I voiced my opinion I was told as the deacons wife you need to be available and you should not have the attitude that it is not your job you would not say that to your employer.

I did apologize to all the parties involved but sometimes I get tired of having to constantly meet the needs of people who never give back. Some people in the church are like a well that never gets enough water. Have you ever had a siutaion like this happen to you? How do you learn patience in these situaions? How can I be more Christ like?

Answer 1

Yes I have had situations like this. Be happy to realize that this means your church is reaching out to the lost. It is not an easy task and often thankless. But, remember you do it unto the Lord and not unto that person. Motive is everything. God loves a cheerful giver. Never do anything you are not absolutely behind.

Now, let us address the Deacons wife comment. If you are not a Deaconess you should not be placed in a position you have not asked for and who ever told you that was flat out wrong. Even a Pastor's wife has the right to say no or not be expected to perform at that drop of a pin.

You are human and we all get tired of helping those that never give back. Though, I would look at those who finally did start to give back. I am sure your church has those kinds as well. Remember we meet people in all stages some times we plow the field, or plant a seed, or water. It is a rare joy and privilege to get to harvest the crop.

You can become more Christ like by doing as he has done. No, I do not mean the obvious love them care for them etc...When the crowds got too much for him he withdrew to a quite place to pray and "recharge" his batteries. Find a place you can go and pray and simply be alone with God. Read the word and simply meditate on God.

He also spent time with those close to him. In these situations we can be our raw human self and let our guards down and finally relax.

Answer 2

My wife and I drove the bus for five years, every Sunday, and another four more for the youth after that. We have been involved in leadership of some form for twelve years now. This kind of thing happens all the time everywhere. I have learned to treat these like water off a ducks back, just let it slide. My wife has a much harder time with it, she tends to take some things personal. If you continue to let them bother you, they will eat you up inside. We have talked with several Pastors about this, some with over fifty years experience. Every one of them say they have had this same thing. The only way we have found to handle it is simply give it to God every time, and often. People tend to leadership as they are expecting us to be perfect. The fact is we are only human, but we must do everything we can to please even the most annoying people.
Sorry I could not be of more help, but all I can say is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY.


To those who said it is not your position it is your husbands, and things like that. You are wrong. When your spouse takes on a role like Pastor, or Deacon you also take take on the public side of that role. It is just like the President, his wife is held to the same standards that he is.

Pastor Bill

Answer 3

Sister,

You need to remember his teachings.

Read Mathew 15-20.

Then is my favorite parable 21-35. The parable of the unmerciful servant.

See, if we don't forgive our brothers and sisters when they sin against us, how can we be forgiven by God? How can we expect them to forgive us.

Confrontation can be SO HARD. At my church right now, it is a small community. There are several people who do things and say things that I don't feel are loving of God. I don't think they are appropriate for a worship gathering either.

So I have three choices. Leave the church. Do nothing and continue to watch them sin against god as I gorw personally frustrated. THREE, confront them and show them their sin.

"There is a woman in my church that I just don't like she is very nasty and a very angry person and she is forever yelling at her kids and she is very rough around the edges." Look at your own heart in the mirror.

Then, you should invite her over to your home to talk. In love. Start a conversation, and try to get to know her. And bring up your issues with her. Start the meeting with prayer. End it with prayer. Do not accuse. We are all guilty sinners. Help your sister with her sin. Remember if you don't know her, maybe her husband abuses her. Maybe her close friends are dying.

Maybe she doesn't know god, or has fallen or strayed, and you can help your sister back to seeing God. Pray about this.

I share your struggle. I would be a hypocrite if I didn't say that this for me is something that is very hard. But if you feel this strongly, pray for strength, stay close to the word, and love your neighbor as yourself.

Remember but for Gods mercy, we would all be blind. When people seem like they can't see their sin, it seems to me that we should show them.

I pray that we both get the courage to confront the people the lord needs us to confront. And I pray I can practice what I have preached.

Answer 4

Ya I have been there,,you know what is funny is that when I have the Lord made sure He put me in a situation where I had to speak to that person or do something for them like pray...lol,,funny how the Lord don't get bothered with this people but we do..sometimes we never know how that persons life is,,the many struggles they have had to endure..I would hope the next time I feel I am better than someone else the Lord corrects me yet again,,cause we all are in the same boat together..

Answer 5

remember that christ came for the sinners and the "rough around the edges" of this world...you are to be christ-like. Love never goes unrewarded, ever think this woman may just need love. Look at the men christ chose as disciples...rag-tag rude rough around the edges...they are the ones he came to enlighten and save...show this woman the love of christ and let god work though you....salt and light

Answer 6

Compared to God, YOU are also extremely rough around the edges and some day HE will also be giving you a ride to his kingdom.

So hang on and continue doing good with a cheerful heart.

YOUR ride nears closer every day!

Answer 7

Just dump the Church and become an Atheist like I did. Why would you want to put up with such crude unworthy selfish people like that? It doesn't take very much study and thinking about what you have been taught about the Bible to see how ridiculous it is. Just as ridiculous as the people who taught you to believe in it. Sorry for my ranting I'm not angry I just like you become flustered sometimes. xx

Answer 8

Thank God that he cares enought to test you and give you this chance to strengthen your faith. He will not give you more than you can handle, but there was no promise that all would be easy and pleasant.

Man plans, God laughs

Answer 9

How do you learn patience?? You are trying to get out of the part that teaches you patience.

Answer 10

Peace, your answer is completely ridiculous and stupid, what if I asked you to kill someone?


To answer the question: Just remember that it is not your job, it is your husband's. You have no reason to be responsible for these people. Your time on life is short, why spend it with those you don't like?