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Question

How do u fall out of love . (I know, weird question). I dont want to love someone that doesnt want to be with me but I still hurt when I see him. The feelings are still strong and I want it to stop. Thanks in advance for the serious answers.

Answer 1

ok. you can't make yourself fall out of love, but you can make it easier. things that help
--be patient with yourself. don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do
--don't go out with other guys until you are ready. if you are ready, it's great. if you aren't, you spend the whole time wishing they were him, which makes things worse
--try to avoid seeing him. this one is tricky, but at least try to avoid accidentally-on-purpose going to places you know he is going to be
--try and fix other things in your life. for example, if you miss him because you felt that he stopped you from being lonely, try to work out why you feel lonely -- do you need to trust other people more? do you need to try and make friends who suit you better? if you feel that he made your life more exciting, think of how you can be happier with your own life. this is not going to help immediately, but over time, it will.
--try not to tell yourself that if it was true love, it has to work out in the end. it's like that in the movies, but in real life, it is possible to really love someone and have it not work out. a lot of the time it's hard to let go because we believe that if it doesn't work out, then our feelings are meaningless.
-- just remember that it will happen, you will feel better, and you will fall in love again.

Answer 2

Oh this is a tough one. I have loved my soulmate a long time now. And since we have broken up... i would have to say that i have not fallen out of love. I have tried over and over again to back myself away. but i have not been able to. and thats the hardest part. the seperate paths we are leading still bring us together from time to time.. and if i had not contact at all.. how easy it would be. my feelings subside more when i am not around this person or hear from thie person at all. i feel like i get back to normal. the minute we are near each other thats it.. i am done. i to want those feeling to stop, but unfortunatley the heart doesnt alwas listen to your mind. and if it were that easy.. wow that would be great.

all i can say distance yourself and see if it helps. i have done that many times and it does help for a bit. You cant stop your feelings.. its not easy. been there doing that now.. all you can is take it one day at a time. Keep the faith it will get better and easier.

Answer 3

You're going to get so many dumb, but sincere, answers from folks that think they know what they're talking about, but really don't.

There's no real definitive answer. What hurts me, might not hurt you and vica versa. Your pain is your own. So, no one can truly understand what you're going through even though they might think they can. Therefore, they can't truly answer/solve your problems.

Why do you think people kill themselves? It's b/c they can no longer see the light at the end of that tunnel we're all looking into. Plus, the pain just won't let up long enough to catch their breath.

The short answer is to just hang in there. If you really love him, you always will. It's not a bad thing to be that way and hurt b/c of it. You just have to learn to put it in a little box, close it up, and put it away somewhere in your inner closet. Learn from it b/c a broken heart is an awesome thing! Good times are great, but the bad times are what shape and mold your character.

Answer 4

There really is no way to fall out of love with someone only after you meet your new found love then will the hurt stop but until then learn to take your mind off of him if at all possible.

Answer 5

You cannot fall out of love. You just have to accept that it is not meant to be and move on. I have been there and it hurts. Your question is not "weird" this happens every day (unfortunatly). Take your feelings and know that you are able to have them (seriously, lucky you because alot of people never have that feeling) and go forward and find someone worthy of the love that you can give them.

Answer 6

I am gonna tell you this you cant fall outta love with some one just remember that you cant be with some one that doesnt love you so i would have to say try to move on with a new guy a heart is a hard thing to heal..
lots of luck happy holidays

Answer 7

I have a method that always worked...My cousin even uses it now....Find something about that person, it may be something small. And get grossed out. I can find the smallest thing like a little discoloration in a fingernail. I can make myself dislike a man i still liked.

Answer 8

Time heals all wounds. All adults have felt exactly how you feel at least once in their life.

Take this opportunity to spend some time on yourself. When I was in a tough breakup, I found myself going to the gym a lot. I enjoyed the adrenalin rush, and it really made me feel better.

Answer 9

I when to that and my solution was get more into yourself, go to the gym, eat healthy food, do your hear different, change your style and when you see hin put in your mind that you are more then him and he is not that important as you were thinking, he is only one more in the world, that you are very beautiful and he is nobody that you will find a better men than that mosquito. and I guaranty you that in a month you will see him and you wont care about him, when try to talk to you, make sure you have plans to do and talking to him is not important as your plans.

Answer 10

I don't think you can ever "fall out of love", you just have to live life day by day and eventually you get over them. Live, learn, and life goes on.