what should i do?

Question

in school people call me gay.or they think i am. i dont wear tight clothes, i just wear stuff that fits me right and maybe a pair of jean is tight. but the rest of the guys dress in very baggy clothes so i stand out. i am looking for the perfect girl but i am very shy. thpre is this girl in one of my classes. she is nice and smart wich i like that about her. but the way she dresses i dont like it at all. and she is not that pretty. should i try to get her just s people will change their perception of me????/

Answer 1

People will change their perception when you change your perception of yourself. Don't allow your peers to influence you. If you enjoy wearing clothes that fit as opposed to the baggy stuff, then wear it. Be confident but not overly boastful or loud.

If you are shy - that's alright, but don't feel you have to defend yourself by getting a girlfriend... that's peer pressure and trust me, from the comments you made (ie - she is not that pretty and you don't like the way she dresses) you are NOT ready to have a girlfriend. Take it easy - don't stress over it, be yourself and don't let them get to you.

Answer 2

You should try to get her because you like her and because she is nice and smart. That is all the reason you need.

Trying to get her because your classmates are jerks is just using her, and thats not fair or honest. Good folks LOVE people and USE things, not the other way around.

Don't be shy, especially if she is smart. Ask her out. Smart girls have a terrible time finding guys who like them and accept them for who they are. Most guys get all freaked out and insecure when a girl is smarter than they are, so smart girls have a very difficult time finding dates; so much so that many girls will pretend to be dumb in school just so they can get a boyfriend. If she really is smart, and you really do like her for who she is, and don't get freaked out by the fact she is smart, that will get you big points in her eyes.

Don't tell her how to dress. Thats a part of who she is. Besides from what you say, you aren't exactly wearing what everyone else does either. (Personally I think that's a very good thing.)

And don't waste your time looking for the perfect girl. She's already dating the perfect guy.

Answer 3

stop already,do you really give all that power to other people over yourself,and why drag that girl into it,you'd be doing it for all the wrong reasons,and it eventually would get ugly.stop thinking about what others think about you,it may seem important now but later on you wont care about those people anymore. dont do things because the peer pressures getting tough,do them because you really want to,and if you keep this in mind,youll go farther in life.if you feel your the perception your giving off isnt what you want it to be then change yourself not because you want acceptance,that will make you a slave to the imbeciles of the world,Take Karate or something ,at least something constructive and remember Morons are everywhere,dont let them be your boss

Answer 4

Okay, work with me here. If you're looking for the "perfect" girl, you'll be on the hunt until you're old and gray and hobbling around on your cane. Forget about the girl. You don't know her well and you are already finding fault with her. Overcome your shyness by joining. Join a choir, try out for baseball, get involved in community work, learn to play the guitar.....whatever. Being around other students who share your own passions will open more doors for you than you can possibly imagine. It's so not about dress and other people's opinions. It's time to step up and let your own light shine.

Answer 5

the way kids dress these days is ridiculous.keep dressing the way you are. they know you are not gay. kids can be, and are cruel at times. as far as the girl is concerned, do what you want to. good luck.

Answer 6

just as she is being herself so should you.its not what you wear its what you do that matters