This is weird because my mom has an older sister who shes always fighting with. Ever since they were little up until now they havent quit and tried to act like adults. Most times when they fight they don't talk for a really long time or call eachother on special days like Thanksgiving, she didnt call her or anything. I knew she was upset with her. Most times when they are in the same place they fight like little girls calling eachother names like, 'stupid' or 'dummy'
or she'd tell her to shut up.
And just keep bickering away. Its sooo annoying.
How do I get them to stop. Beleive me I've tried..
2006-12-15 14:47:59 · 13 answers · asked by ~**Milanou**~ Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a bigger problem then you can fix. Try to enjoy them individually or ask them to get professional help.
2006-12-15 14:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are more adult than your mom and her sister. There is probably nothing you can do about it, adults show their childness at times, some time to long. It is not your fault that these two people cannot get along, do not blame yourself. Probably goes way back into their childhood , being jealous of each other and each will not give up the battle. Best thing to do is leave the area and let them do what ever they do. Should be a good lesson for you, never act like that with your own sister or brother. I would try one time , when they are both together, tell them both that they need to stop all this, as it is upsetting you and they need to act like adults, if they cannot, then stay away from each other and you.
2006-12-15 14:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have siblings?? An older or younger sis or brother? If you do--how many times have you fought and nitpicked at each other--over stupid stuff? It does get a bit more complex at we get older and as we get older there's not a parent there making us kiss and make up. My sister and I fight --alot-- I'm the older and should know better--but it happens, I haven't talked to my lil sis for a month (Thanks to you tho--I may just send out a "sorry" e-mail). Things happen, ego's get in the way, then just the "pecking order" of who's the oldest and in charge. It's complicated Kiddo but deep down inside sisters and brothers do love each other. There's nothing you can do about it, it's just us adults being "kids".
2006-12-15 16:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be creative and use stuff from the movies. OK like have you seen parent trap?
Ask your Mom about a nice memory she has of her sister. Then do the same to your her sister. Then write letters to both of them posing as your mom or your aunt. Some thing like: Hey _______ I was just thinking of old times and I remember that dress you used to have and everyone loved you in it. You looked so good.....-- how about meeting up with me and having a girls night out at _______.
Oh and try mentioning that they are sorry for all the hurtful things they have said to each other.
Maybe they will start treating each other nicer.
I know it's kinda cheesy, but it's worth a try.
2006-12-15 15:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Domingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Alex, I know it's difficult when people fight in your home but it's normal. We who've been abandoned ,espessicially at a young age, tend to feel like it's our fault when people fight. The best thing to do is to remind yourself ; this is not in your control, they love each other , it will be okay, and ask them how they think you should deal with your feelings regarding this, read some books on psycology, that is what helped me. Also remember you are blessed because Jesus said " Blessed are the peace makers" Matthew 5...
2016-03-29 08:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from it. tell your mom how you feel. If she can't be mature enough to stop fighting in front of you. You'll have to go to the park or something. Listen to the mp3 player. don't let it effect you because this can stress you out. Enjoy your life. Don't waste time worrying about fixing the problem . you are just wasting your energy. It's not your problem so stay out of it. As soon you feel the tension break free by occupying your self with something instead trying to focus on them. Let them know that you don't want be in the middle of anything that you love them both.
2006-12-15 16:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by cafesoylatte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, my father doesn't get along with his family; siblings, mom, or any of her brothers and sisters, because they are always fighting because they are obsessed with being better than each other...among other things.
The trick that he has learned and has taught me is simple, apathy. Whatever is going on between your mom and her sister has appearantly been going on for a long time, but if you want to help, ask her why. When ever she gives you an answer, force her to dig deeper. This is only something they can resolve between themselves, but you may be able to help them gain insight.
Best of luck to you, God Bless
2006-12-15 15:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of it, it sounds as though they have had a very dysfunctional relationship their entire lives. And they will probably die with this dysfunction. Unfortunately, there is little if anything you are going to be able to do to stop this. They are both mature adults and really should know better. God bless****
2006-12-15 14:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont really fight, just their way of getting along. older sisters think they have to fun the family. my 60 yr friend fight like that really they best friends deep down inside. remind her her sister will be gone some day ,so enjoy her company while she can
2006-12-15 14:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up 2 them 2 stop fighting just tell them U don't like it
2006-12-15 14:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋