My 3 year old son recently began simulating sexual activity with dolls, which he first undresses. He holds them up with their legs spread against his genital area. I have two older girls who never did such a thing, so I don't know if this is normal behavior for a boy or if it is a sign of something inappropriate going on ... He has been with the same daycare provider since he was 11 weeks old and my daughter went there, too, with no problems. We have "caught" him doing this with various dolls several times in the past two weeks. Not sure how to react. When we ask him where he learned that or if someone showed him, he just says "me." Does someone else do that? "No, just me." I did talk to my babysitter, who was also worried. I should mention that she and her husband are the kids' godparents, so I trust them, but I wonder where this is coming from.
2006-12-15 14:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by footballmom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This does not seem normal. Young children often look at or explore each others' bodies because they are curious and that is not considered sexual. But your son is not just curious about what is under the doll's clothes. It appears that he may have seen someone having sex. Is it possible that he has observed you or the babysitter with a partner? This is just a question, not a criticism (although if it was the babysitter, I'd fire her for having sex while on the job). Please talk to your pediatrician and/or a child counselor about this. You don't want to frighten your son or cause him to clam up even further, so leave the questions to someone who has experience in dealing with children who have been sexually abused. It is quite possible that your son is fine and no one has touched him inappropriately, but it is best to find out.
Best wishes...you'll be in my prayers. Aloha.
2006-12-15 19:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very unusual for a child to simulate sex acts at that age, curiosity is normal but not simulating sex. Kids repeat things they are taught or saw. Could it be possible that he saw you or your husband or even your babysitter having sex or seen it on t.v.? If the answer to these questions are no, then you could have a serious problem on your hands. Take him to a child psychologist, dont badger him, he prob. wont tell you. At that age a child cannot comprehend what is happening or may not even think that it is wrong. Better safe then sorry, I would stop taking him to the sitter for the time being (if they are the ones responsible then you could be putting your child in more danger, even if you trust them, think of all the people who trust their loved ones only to find out that this is happening) get him help, even if it turns out to be nothing.
2006-12-16 02:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this very troubling. Like someone else already said, a child of that age is curious about his own body. But he should have no idea how to simulate sex unless he has seen it. This isn't something he'd just decide to do. I have two boys and the youngest is 3. Neither of them have done anything remotely like this. If you are fairly certain he isn't being sexually abused, is it possible that he saw something on tv he shouldn't have? He got the idea from somewhere.
2006-12-16 00:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A three year old child would not be doing this unless they witnessed this happening. If your son has never seen anyone having sex, then how would he know exactly what to do? I think you may need to dig deeper into this situation. Either the babysitter was having sex on the job, or maybe your son caught you and your husband and you just didn't realize it.
2006-12-15 21:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just fine. When my oldest son (now 6) was 2, we were in the store picking out a present for my niece.... my son picked up a barbie... we lived with my sister and her 4 kids, so he played with barbies all the time... well, this guy and his son came down the aisle, and his son had a G.I Joe... he saw my son with the barbie and said something along the lines of "I can't believe that you let your SON play with Barbies..." I smiled at him and said "I don't know about you, but when my son is undressing his toys, I like knowing that he's undressing a female doll." The guy took the toy from his son and huffed away, lmao. Now my son is 6 and into Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and Hotwheels and video games and Spiderman, just like other boys his age.... but I'll never forget the look on that mans face. Don't worry about what other people say, just let your son play... he's playing with your daughters toys because he is around your daughter and sees her playing with them. He's too young to know what's a boy toy and what's a girl toy.... he'll outgrow it in time, and your family shouldn't worry so much about it.
2016-05-22 22:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he seen some sex scenes on the TV that he may be copying? how does he seem in himself? I would have a word with a doctor or child counselor. But don't panic, it doesn't necessary mean that he has been abused
2006-12-15 19:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Olds **** Dolls
2016-12-11 15:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god ! This is a sick world and your child has been touched by another older child or adult.Please ask for help to find out who. there are trained people for this. your child is pure and help him before its too late;PLEASE
2006-12-15 18:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness no that is not normal he had to get that from somewhere weather he say it or someone is doing it to him and I hope he just say it even though that is bad too but it is not as bad as someone doing it to him good luck
2006-12-16 16:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you should take him to a therapist this is not normal
2014-08-31 17:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Gothicmiku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋