Should I go to the funeral of a friend's father who I have never met? Please answer ASAP! Funeral tomorrow.

Question

I have been taking ballet classes and performing with my friend for 5+ years. We are not friends outside of ballet because she's still in high school, and I'm a few years into college, but pretty good friends in class. We take class together 3 days a week. Her mother and grandmother are both seamstresses for my ballet company, and I like them all. Her father died suddenly the other night. Should I go to the funeral?

Answer 1

If you are comfortable with going to a funeral, you go to support your friend.That is a kind and considerate gesture. You'd be doing it for her. She surely needs all the love and care of those around her right now.

Answer 2

When my dad died, many of of my co-workers traveled to the town where my dad lived. I did not associate with these co-workers outside of school, so I was both surprised and very comforted by their presence. Also, I recently attended a funeral of friend's father, even though I had never met him. She called later to thank me and tell me that my presence was meaningful to her. Yes, please go. You will be glad you did ,because this is what friends do to support one another. It's easy to be a friend during the good times, but with the good always come those difficult times as well. Also,, your friend will remember for many years the respect you showed for her and her family during a difficult time of very raw and helpless emotions.

Answer 3

Yes, it would be the polite thing to do. Since you are both friends in class and stuff i am sure she would love your support, same with her mother and grandmother since the help the ballet company. I am sure they will be very grateful if you go.

Answer 4

Funerals are for the living, not the dead.

Go for your friend and her family, the survivors. Your relationship may be a small part of her life but she just lost a big piece and your support could help fill that void for the time being.

Answer 5

It is always a nice gesture to show support to a friend. It seems you also have some sort of relationship with at least one other member of the family. If you wish to demonstrate that you are a friend and care, go. If you do not, or fear that other things may be concluded by your attendance, don't, but send flowers or something else.

Good luck in your decision.

Answer 6

Yes. You friend will appreciate it, but maybe not until later. Be sure to sign the book, because things will be a blurr for them at the time. My dad died last year, and there were people there that I didn't get to talk to, and didn't know they were there until I read it in the book. I was able to thank them for coming later.

Answer 7

I would say - yes - go...their family is all connected and the wife, mom, daughter (your friend) would appreciate your support. I would hesitate to "view" the deceased, but a nice card and gentle words with the ladies there would be thoughtful and kind. You dont have to stay long....

Answer 8

Absolutely! You're doing this to show your respect for your friend and her mother and grandmother. Believe me, they will appreciate your thoughtfullness and never forget you for it.
These acts of kindness have a way of coming back to you in the future.
You're a wonderful person to want to do the right thing.

Answer 9

Funerals are for the living. Go and show your friend that you are there for her. She will appreciate it, even if she doesn't get to talk with you. Just knowing you are there helps.

Answer 10

It might be a way of supporting your friend. And since you know her mother and grandmother, too, I think it would be just fine to go and pay your respects to someone that people you know have cared about.