help, I fell pregnant when my 1st bub was 7 wks?

Question

I am finding it really hard at the moment, I am 15 weeks pregnant and have a 5 month old daughter. I didnt plan the second pregnancy, however it happened, and I considered an abortion but just couldnt go through with it. So now I am still coming to terms with going to have two children only 11 months apart. How will I manage? Sometimes I feel happy but then other times I feel sad and angry because I dont want another baby so soon. Anyone here have two babies this close in age? any tips or advice? I dont think I will accept I am having another baby until this baby is born and I dont want to miss out on the things with my first bubs.

Answer 1

Don't worry!!!
I have a 3 1/2 y boy and 1 1/5 twin boys! and I manage...
Everything has to be very organized now...but within a few weeks you get the hang of it and it becomes routine.
If you love your daughter, you will love that other baby as much, even if you have your hands full most of the time. (hey, I would need 3 hands...but, oh well)
Go for a double stroller right away, it will save you life...and your arms!
good luck!!

Answer 2

Well, I have been terrified of this situation happening to me, fingers crossed at the moment. For some of us, birth control just doesn't work properly. So I feel for you!

Let's see if we can find some positives. 1) All your baby stuff will still be accessible, no hunting down the bassinet or the newborn clothes. 2) You'll know the stages pretty well, your parenting skills sharpened and honed from the first and still fresh on your mind. 3)When the kids are a little older, they will play together pretty well since they'll be so close in age.

People used to have babies closer in age than they do now, because of the birth control issue. A lot of Catholic families in my area still have kids "stair-stepped." In my family I think we all wound up about 2 years apart, but my father-in-law and his brother are only about a year apart. So it can be done.

Time management is going to be your best friend. A doula or a willing relative might be a good idea for that first few days at home. After that. crock pot meals, a laundry ball, whatever you can do to have time. I think once you get the hang of it you'll be fine, and will find you don't miss things with your firstborn. Good luck with it, I'll be thinking of you!

Answer 3

My son and his wife had 1 child. When the child turned 7 years old the wife found out she was pregnant (total shock). We all dealt with it, raced around and bought everything new again (all the 1st kid's stuff had been long given away). Then guess what? Within a couple of months of giving birth to #2, she was pregnant with #3. Oh well, there are far worse things in life that can happen than to give birth to a healthy baby....

Make sure to find a double stroller, you will need one. Aside from that, just be happy.

Answer 4

My first two are 2 years 2 weeks apart. I felt so guilty about getting pregnant with my second child... I thought I was taking myself away from my oldest child...
Once my daughter was born it took until she was about 6 weeks for me to realize I really did love my second child. She was sick, and in the hospital, and almost died. I did the thoughts of abortion and all those things long before she was born.
I quickly realized my daugher adapted well to having a baby sister... they are best of friends.... and its the best thing I could have done, even if I didn't feel right about it at that moment.
Good LUck

Answer 5

Its tough, that is no lie. My sister and I are that close in age. I couldn't ask for more of a best friend. We loved it, same class, same friends, everything. You might want to seek some help. Talk to someone, it might help. If you can't come to terms with a second child or realistically can't afford another consider adoption. I have been trying for a child for five years. There are wonderful people out there to raise the child. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 6

It's understandable to feel like you are depriving your first child of your constant attention when you become pregnant again so soon. The good part is that you will have two kids that are close enough to play together all through childhood, hand-me-downs will always be available and you can use a double stroller for a while.

Answer 7

My sons are 14 months apart and at first I was less than thrilled, but to be honest it wasn't that much harder. There is also a bond that forms between the two with the oldest being so little she won't have as much trouble dealing with mommy having a new baby. My sons are inseparable. I wish you luck.

Answer 8

Britney Spears just had her second son exactly 12 months after her first one was born...it happens to a lot of people.

Perhaps you should speak with a therapist to iron out your anxiety and stress before it negatively affects your health and the baby you're carrying, and the baby you already have.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Speak to your doctor. Please quickly. You can still go through post parteum depression while being pregnant with the next baby. As for the kids they will be fine children are resilient. It's not what you do the first year that they use against you anyway. It's the stuff the remember.

Answer 10

Regardless if it was planned or not, youve get another one coming and that baby deserves the same love and adoration as the first. You have a tough road ahead of you, but you are a mom, and you'll survive. So drop the sadness and anger. Youve got a little kid growing inside of you--and that child can sense your emotions. Give your baby a healthy good start. Best of luck to you.