Okay, bear with me ... there are two sections to this issue:
1. Recently, a friend suddenly stop communicating with his friends (including me) and now he only talks to his family members. The same family members have been saying that his personality has been really bitter as of late and that he never seems happy ... they don't know what to do about it.
2. This same friend also has a secret that he only told one of his best guy friends. Now that he's being anti-social, he's friend tells me the secret. The secret is that he really cares about me and doesn't know how to express it. He has wanted to ask me out for a while now but was too scared :( :( :( :(
He was only scared to ask me because he feels that I'm the one he wants to marry some day! At first, I didn't believe it but the brother of this friend kinda confirmed everything but I had to promise never to mension this to him.
How do I help him if he's acting anti-social? Will he ever admit his feelings to me?
2006-12-15 14:24:54 · 8 answers · asked by rosie768 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No no no, he didn't cut off all communications because of me. He started being anti-social months before I heard about this secret. The fact that he is anti-social has nothing to do with his feelings for me.
He's having other issues and I don't know how to help him .....
2006-12-15 14:33:12 · update #1
And Yes, I am a little scared that I may push him away if I try to push help upon him. He and I (up to this point) have been friends for years -- 7 to be exact. That why it hurts that he won't speak to me and I don't know why.
2006-12-15 14:42:12 · update #2
You're walking a strange path here. Its really nice that the guy likes you, and a friend of a friend's brother who kind of knew the secret confirmed it all for you.... but, that speaks nothing of WHY he's anti-social. If he's that anti-social right now, he's probably working through some big issue. If you like this guy, give him some space and some time. Let him know that you're there if he wants to talk or hang out. Don't try to help him too much, or rush through this. If you do, this will end badly and anything you might have had will disappear. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-15 14:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, why not ask him out? That might shock him out of his slump, and would probly make him feel better!!
I think he started being anti-social, because he was afraid of how you'd react to it, if you would at all. He also might think that he has stongs feelings for you, and you don't have any.
By the way it sounds, you might have a little feeling for him. So by you asking him out, might be pretty good for him. As well as you. You may realize that maybe he is the one, or it go the other way. He may realize that you're not the one for him.
It's a very confusing situation, but I think you should ask him out. Take him somewhere kinda quiet. Maybe a restaraunt, or a walk on the beach/park. That way you can talk, and won't have alot of noise or distractions. Because he feels this way towards you, you might be able to get the info from him, about what's making him feel the way he does, or why he's acting the way he is.
2006-12-15 22:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to be shy and anti-social but if he is ever going to be any good for you I think his personality is all wrong. If however you care for him you should approach him to break the ice. A good woman can change a man for the better. Good Luck
2006-12-15 22:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to his family and let them tell him what you want. as long as they sit him down properly, look him in the eye, and talk to him in all seriousness, it should work.
will he ever admit his feelings? i'm not sure, but honestly, maybe the comfort that you're thinking about him (friends or more? no matter) he might just step out a little and say how he truly feels. things like this i would imagine to take time of course, so the #1 thing i cant tell you is to be patient.
2006-12-15 22:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by echo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him? If you do, be careful because his feelings for you are very strong. Go slow, but see how it turns out. If he told someone, then maybe he wanted it to get back to you. The ball's in your court. You make the next move.
2006-12-15 22:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Always a Mentor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to deal with this is head on, stop with the games and talk to him ask him whats going on and is there any thing you can do to help, tell him you care about him and are worried about him. then maybe he"ll open up.
2006-12-16 10:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cut off all communications because he wants to ask u out and then marry u but hes afraid? ya right, get over yourself
2006-12-15 22:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by ghggj g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you like him? if you do you should admit this to him, it will give him a security making it easier to communicate his own feelings towards you.
2006-12-15 22:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋