Confessing my sins,... ahh alot.?

Question

My family is Catholic and very religious, so am I. I have been confessing ever since I was little (now I am 14) But recently I have done something that I am afraid to tell anyone.
I had a a threesome with these two older boys. We did it twice and I am ashamed to say that I enjoyed it. Now I am scared of going to church with my family because I would have to be honest and I can't say about what I did.
Should I stop going to church?
I feel like sex is interfering with my religion

Answer 1

sounds more like you think your religion is interfering with sex. why should you stop going to church? ... so you aren't reminded of right and wrong?

Answer 2

I am NOT a Catholic, so I don't know what the Pope or your church's traditions would say, but the Bible says that you are to confess your sins to God. If you are a Christian and believe that the Bible is the infallable word of God, you would understand the difference between what the Catholic Church says and what the Bible teaches. Christians believe that the Bible is the ONLY authority and that your salvation is bought and paid for through the Blood of Christ. It has nothing to do with your good works or obedience. I would check with your priest and also a Christian leader who could show you what the Bible says. You, in NO way, must confess your sin to the priest or anyone else. However, if you believe that Jesus Christ is your Lord and Savior and you are counting on Him ALONE for your salvation, you will find that turning away from this sin and ALL sex out of the context of marriage is a struggle but a joy as you will WANT to be obedient if you have truly given your life to Christ. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I wouldn't stop going to church. Clearly it is important to you, and as long as you feel that way you should go.

Instead I think you need to consider your PERSONAL definition of sin. Do you believe you were wrong to do what you did? If you do, and if being a good Catholic is as important to you as you make it seem then you must confess because by definition you have sinned. On the otherhand if you don't really think what you did was wrong and you plan on doing it again, then have you really sinned? Some people would say yes. Others would say no. What's most important is what YOU say.

Additionally I will say this: If you really believe that premarital sex is a sin then you will probably be best off if you stop. Otherwise the physical pleasure will bring a lot of emotional pain. If on the otherhand you don't think you have sinned then DO BE CAREFUL! Use condoms! (DO NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER!) Also, just remember that sex tends to come with a lot of stuff attached to it. Deep emotional stuff. Don't do anything you are not ready for. Take good care of yourself and good luck.

Oh and for the record, no, I don't think you've sinned, but I do think that at 14 you are leaving yourself open to a lot of hurt. Again, BE CAREFUL!

Answer 4

Honey

God is not just inside your church. I am sure that you have been taught that God is everywhere all the time. God was there when you did these things that are eating away at your heart and soal.

If what you did was right, you wouldnt be still thinking about it this way. Because what you did was wrong (no matter if you enjoyed it or not) you are unable to enjoy everyday life.

You do not need to be in a church to fix this. You do need to be in the right frame of mind. Realize that what you did was wrong and then right in your own room, all alone, start talking to God. Tell him what is on your mind, (he already knows), you cannot keep a secret from God. Tell God that you know its wrong and ask him for forgiveness of the act and then make a vow to God that you will not repeat this behavior, even though you enjoy it, you understand that it is wrong and ask God for strength to avoid repeating this act, which would include staying away from situations where you would be alone with boys.

God is powerful and all knowing. He is with you all the time and ready and waiting to forgive you and give you strength to stop doing things that are wrong. After all this, you can start the process of forgiveing yourself for going against Gods word.

Answer 5

Why are you ashamed to say you enjoyed it? Would you be ashamed to enjoy food, or other physical sensations? The religion you happened to be born into condemns sex for the most part; the laws were decided thousands of years ago when the only important issue was increasing tribe size. Would you prefer to be unable to enjoy sex?

As long as everybody consents, nobody's hurting anybody, and you use protection, there's no problem.

You should, hopefully, stop going to church once you realize a few things about your religion, but not directly because of this.

I'd ask you to IM me since you sound.. confused.. but you're probably too young to even talk to (no offense, I hope). But if you really did spend all of your life with people that happened to belong to the same religion, try looking at other viewpoints.

If you're ready for sex, why not do it? If not, wait until you're ready. Good luck.

Answer 6

You should feel sex is interfering with your religion, because it is. You are fighting God and taking pleasure in the wrong things. You don't have to confess to anyone, just God. No one can forgive you for your sins except God. We all make mistakes. You do seem to regret what your doing so if you mean it, your sin will be forgiven. There is nothing in the Bible that states you have to say hail Marys to be forgiven. Skip the middle man and go to God. It i no ones business but yours. If the rules of the church make you nervous or scare you then you should look for a new church. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

the priest won't tell anyone what you confess. you don't have to give detail about what you did, you could just say you commited a carnal sin, that incorporates what you did and god is aware of that,that you confessed he can then forgive you and do your penance. if you liked you could confess at a catholic church in the town next to you or something,then next time you go with your family you can feel more at ease. what you did is over,try avoiding to do it repeatedly as best you can, but don't allow it to keep you ffrom god and the church as that would be an even bigger sin and may lead you even further astray and doing much worse things.

Answer 8

there's a bigger question here -- the question of how you feel about your religion and what it means to you. you don't "have" to confess your sins -- no-one can tell what is inside your head. you need to think very hard about what it means to you to be catholic, and whether you want to follow catholicism's teachings wholeheartedly, partially, or not at all. if you do want to continue with going to confession, you have a number of options -- you might consider going to confession at another church, instead of the one your family usually goes to. however, if you enjoyed the threesomes and want to continue with them, confessing them would be hypocritical. questions to ask yourself include
-- did i really enjoy the threesomes, and do i really feel good about them? or was i pressured into doing something i now feel ashamed of?
-- is my sense of shame internal or external? do i feel that what i did was wrong, or do i just think other people would condemn me for it/
-- do i want to continue having sex?
-- do i go to church because i believe in it, or because my family makes me?
-- if i tell the priest at my church, can i trust him not to tell my parents?

only you can answer these questions. it's not exactly sex that is the problem here, but your own feelings about religion. if you can't figure out how you feel about that just yet, the simple solution is to confess to a priest from a different church and keep going to church with your family until you make up your mind one way or another.

Answer 9

We all make mistakes in life...even pleasurable mistakes. I know your Catholic, but you can always just take your confession strait to the Lord. A priest does not need to hear it to make it ok. Put your religious beliefs aside and focus on your own spiritual faith. God loves us no matter what we do. I wouldn't stop going to church though. But again if you feel that uncomfortable going to confession, just pray on your own.

Answer 10

Satan's temptations usually feel very pleasing while we are doing them, that is why he is soooo hard to resist. Look, no matter what you do, do not stay away from the Blessed Sacrament. It will help you overcome your desires. Confess immediately. You will probably fall into sin again but keep confessing. We are not perfect rather we can only strive to be. You're kinda young to be doing these things anyhow, but when you are older what you and your husband do in the confines of marriage will be much more enjoyable.

Answer 11

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