So I have this guy I sleep with every once an awhile. Its casual, we were seeing each other but he ended it. Now we just have sex. So today we were talking about how just having sex with people and he told me he felt bad for just having sex with me. I told him that I let him. Anyways then I asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else mainly because of std's an all that, he said no, and asked me if i was, I said no as well. He said if I was would it matter, I said no but I would like to know because of std's and stuff he told me ya he only sleeps with me cause of that, then I said to him would it matter if I was sleeping with anyone else; he told me it would matter, I asked him why he said because. So if its casual why would it matter to him if I was sleeping w/ someone else? Also when we were intimate with each other last nite, something felt different not in a bad way it was just different about the way we did things. After we cuddled and everything, is that how its supposed to be?
2006-12-15 14:07:28 · 10 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is just getting comfortable. Don't mistake this for him wanting to commit. He is just used to having you how he wants you and it feel different because of the comfort but this don't not mean love.
It' also a control thing. Him not wanting you to be with anyone else. He wants the comfort of not having to be protected.
If he is really falling in love with you he will change your status to girlfriend. Try to go a bit without the sex and see what happens.
2006-12-15 14:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by ☺Inquisitive 1☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be more the an intimate affair, the only to know is ask him if one night is different then the other, something could be going on good or bad, he could be afraid to tell you, as he is not sure what to say to you because he is not sure what your reaction will be. If you don't want to be a casual affair let him know and see how he feel about pursuing a relationship. If he says he is not ready then don't force him, just let him know what you think about this casual thing going on, He could feel the same way, one or the other is going to have to step to the plate and saying something to clear the air. So talk to this guy and see what happens you never know you might get an unexpected answer.
2006-12-15 22:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God didn't intend for sex to be casual for mankind. It was supposed to be love at its epitamy ending with procreation. This is what made us different from all the animals fukcin just because. If the love is genuine from both people for eachother the sex will feel different better and special. I believe this is one of the virtues of life. Lust or Love?
2006-12-15 22:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if its casual... if it were casual after sex id go in the kitchen and get something to eat.. id only cuddle if i loved the person i slept with.
2006-12-15 22:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants something more than casual sex. ask him if he wants a relationship, if it is just sex then it sounds like he wants to be free to sleep with anyone and for you to wait for him. doesn't sound fair to me.
2006-12-15 22:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y'all are in denial...you want to be with eachother but don't want to admit it...all this casual sex is going to bite you one day. Get w/ this guy and quit waiting for the next best offer!!
2006-12-15 22:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Not that he would admit it. I think that deep down he has "feelings" for you- more than friendship but he also knows that you will always be there for him. Are you willing to always be there?
2006-12-15 22:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by momkennymadi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe he is falling in love with you.
2006-12-15 22:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so some one tought him did things?? worried he might catch something from your other boy connections, if you had some.
2006-12-15 22:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples cuddle.
2006-12-15 22:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋