so i have been on about 10 dates with this girl. we first met in feb. and really didnt ask her out until a couple months ago. we hit and miss with our schedules, but that is to be expected with anybody. so, a couple of things. i finally kissed her on our tenth date. yes i am slow, so what. but she has been hinting around at things...like do you women openly say to us guys that u r a virgin, and talk about DOING it (like with brad pitt lets say..."oh i'd do him!") am i dating a horny virgin, b/c she never once went to try to kiss me or anything like that until i made the move and asked actually to kiss her. before, it was always a nice hug at the end of the night, & she did give a long hug too. which is sweet in my book. so i am lost! is she just looking to do it, or wanting more to a relationship down the road? if so, do i wait to do anything with her, or if i get the green light, just go for it. its her first time and i want her to be sure she wants to, and not b/c of lust.
2006-12-15 13:53:38 · 22 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very good to know that you care about her enough to want to have sex with her becasue she wants to, not because of lust.
And to answer your question, tell her exactly what you just told us. Chances are, you will not scare her off. Conversation makes a relationship stronger. Chances are, she's very drawn to you becasue of beginning-of-the-relationship excitment. If she hasn't done much with a boy before, she's probably also drawn to the "bubbly" feeling she gets in her stomach when she touches you. In time, this feeling will go away. As of right now, I think it would be safe to assume that the two of you haven't been dating long enough for everything to be love-based. In fact, much of it is probably out of lust. Be sure to ask her how she feels on the concepts of sex before marraige. Assure her that it is okay to be open and honest with you. At the same time, let her know that you will be open and honest with her. Once all the feelings are out on the table, that's when the real fun begins.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 13:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Fur and Fiction 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, you sound sweet! Well, I am a virgin, and plan to be one until my wedding night. You need to find out how she values her virginity. Does she want to lose it to the right guy? Wait until she's married? It's hard being a virgin, I feel like I want to jump any guy who is nice to me! I'm not one to initiate a kiss or anything though; that's the guys job!! She probably is hella horny, but maybe scared, or really wants to wait (see above). Maybe try lots of cuddling, but never force anything. If she is ready, and the mood is right, she may just initiate something. She may get scared or want to stop before "it" happens, so be prepared to be "let down". Do be gentle if you take her virginity!
2006-12-19 02:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by nikepatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take Your Time. Three very important words. If you jump on her the first sign she gives, you might find her scared. No girl wants to be rushed, and considering she hugged you until lately, you are dealing with a girl who has a lot of emotion. Which means, you having to reach out to kiss her, means she isn't going to jump into bed with you right away. just be nice, and sensitive, the guy you seem to be.
Have fun, and don't push it. She'll tell you when it's time to go to the next level.
2006-12-15 14:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Zig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you sound like a really caring guy (honestly!!!) My advice that you need to talk with each other and figure out what you both want out of the relationship.
If you want my opinion, it sounds like you want to get serious with this girl ... which is wonderful, considering she is a virgin. If I'm correct, then proceed on making the relationship more intimate. However, she where her morals are first.
Remember, the key to a wonderful relationship isn't sex, its the connection.
You sound awesome! Good luck to you :D
2006-12-15 14:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared of sex anymore... make a good strong move - it sounds like she's willing to sleep w/you. Women like men who are confident and know what they want. But you have to go get it. Chicks dig confidence. Make a move. Trust me, it works.
2006-12-15 14:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unavoidably, lol that's called a date, i imagine because they set a date at the same time on which they are gonna bypass out. i imagine diverse human beings do diverse issues on their dates.
2016-11-30 20:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by laranjeira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so proud of you because your actually thinking of pros and cons I would just kind of take it a day at a time and play it by ear. No rush.
2006-12-15 13:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A horny virgin who talks about it= break up with her, cause she will tell the whole world about.
2006-12-15 14:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your a nice guy like me,don't make risky moves let her do it.That way she doen't feel to pressered.Treat her like a lady.
If she hints just say I don't want to do something you don't want.
2006-12-15 13:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about getting in her pants and start respecting her like a human being.
2006-12-15 13:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋