do i have a crush on him?

Question

okay well first of all im 13, and ive liked a couple of guys before, but not anymore. im in grade 8, and next year ill be in high school. i sit next to a guy in my class, that a kid has been sayin tht were lovebirds, and tht we like eachother. well im really really shy around the guy. hes popular, and im not. im trying to convince myself tht i dont like him, and tht in 1 year, it will all be over. but i know tht i sort of like him. what should i do?

he also asks me questions for math and stuff alot and never asks the person tht sits beside him

Answer 1

i think you already answered your quetion. yes, you do like him. it is a cute little crush. if you like him see how he feels. maybe ask if he wants to go do something( whatever 13 yr olds do these days...) have funa nd keep it light.

Answer 2

That is quite a young age to want to date, maybe you are better off making it a social affair until you get older, it seems you are great tutor and likes the way you explain things in can't understand in the classes that you have. He might be popular but that does not mean that you and him can't hang out, he might like you better then some of the other people he hangs around. Sort of like a role model, you have to tell people you are not dating or whatever they may think is going on between you and this guy. So what if you don't get over this in a year, you have to figure out what you will do next. Maybe he likes you and is waiting for your reaction what you think of him, he won't know unless you tell him, Honesty is the best policy. I know your shy but you can overcome it if you want to, Convincing yourself of what is true and what you don't want might not work if you don't put it into action.

Answer 3

well, if this guy is popular and talks a lots with cool guys i don't think it will be a problem, if you only laugh at his jokes then maybe he will talk to you and you should also talk to him likes he's the man in the class like for example'hi whateverhisnameis'.

you see i'm 15, and i go to high school, and i know guys would like that.

Answer 4

Well only you can decided if you like him. It sounds like he doesn't have a interest in you other than academics, If you want to see if he does try being nice to him and smile and say hi outside the class. Maybe he might see your interested or not. Test the waters.

Answer 5

In this kind of situation, I would be very careful.

If he's popular, like you say, he could (and I'm just saying it's a possibility- not that he is) have a big ego and be kind of superficial. In this case, I would look to see if he actually makes an effort in class. Make sure he's not just using you for your smarts and being kind to you just because he knows you'll give him the answers. He could very well be putting on an "I'm your friend" act so that he doesn't have to pay as much attention in class. This has kind of happened to me before, but I was smart about it and I didn't let myself get taken advantage of. (ended sentence in preposition, I know- I know).

All throughout school I was really shy- especially in middle school. I hated middle school- it was probably one of the most awkward times of my life, but you get through it. Now I'm no where near as shy, but I have my head screwed on right, if you know what I mean. Part of growing up is learning how to read other people, and if you can tell that this guy is genuinely asking for your help and will still recognize you and treat you the same outside of class, and better yet, AFTER the class is over, then sure, go ahead and give him a hand.

But PLEASE do not let yourself become a fool by helping him out and then getting disappointed when you find out he doesn't invite you to a party he's throwing, etc. etc.

You're better than that and you should never let any guy sweet talk you into anything that seems sketchy- even if it's something as simple as helping him out with schoolwork.

I'm kind of a feminist, so I hate it when I see guys who use their charm to get what they want when they really in fact don't care at all.

Yes, it sucks when you like the guy, but then again, maybe you could be confusing it with only liking his sense of humor or his looks. This, in my opinion, is not enough to allow yourself to really fall for the guy and set your eyes only on him. Look for the qualities you like in men all in one guy- don't sell yourself short of something that is important to you just because he can make you laugh. I also kind of liked the guy who tried to get my help, but I was smarter and knew that it he only needed/wanted my help and nothing else. So I made him do his own work, and I'm glad I did. That's not to say to be rude, because you don't ever want to turn rude when you think you know someone is only about using you. You want people to always remember you as being nice and kind, yet also someone who's going to stand up for herself and for her rights when confronted.

So don't be mean to him or ignore him. You could even say something sweet like, "C'mon, I know you're smart and that you can do it!" or "You'll be even more proud of yourself when you find that you can do it by yourself in the end."

Words of encouragement are a great substitution for not wanting to help yet at the same time send the message, "I'm not trying to be mean here...I just don't want you copying my work/don't want you getting off easy because I'm always helping you."

Good luck!

Answer 6

Well talk to him star a mini conversation tell him this "Hi whats ur favorite color: and the same color that he likes u like it to its called cheating but i call it the same i hope it works 4 u best of luck!

Answer 7

Ask him out and get to know him a little maybe u will like him more once u no him a little

Answer 8

Ask him out, go for something fun. Its easy to just ask. Don't be shy. If your shy, nth would work out. or ask him for his emaill add n you uys could chat online or play some online games together. go ahead and ask him. be brave girl! Good luck!

Answer 9

Just become his friend first. You might lik him more or find out he's not wat u thought he was. Then when u know him more and u still lik him ask him out. Since he doesn't ask the other kid besides him for classes i'm pretty sure he'll say yes especially since he'll know u more then.

Answer 10

Girl you had better for it sure does seem like he's got one on you and guys like that really don't come every day !