even though my parents are seperated my dad is still always calling my mom asking her where she is and who she's w/ even if she's at home he's done this his whoel life and even if my mom doesn't like this she's not the type tp stand up for herself. and my other question is wut do i do about it cuz he even does this to ME. i feel like when i'm on my own he's gonna bother me liek crzy and not let me do wut i want and be free. and my dad isn't an easy person to stand up to. any normal person is afraid of him. he has such a bad temper and when he gets mad he gets mad! he scares the **** out of ppl older than him. he's only like this w/ me my mom and bro and faking mr. nice guy to every1 else so every1 likes him even though they know how he is and no1 wud support me so wut do i do i don't wanna live under sum1's control 4ever i don't ever wanna see him again either he's treated me lyk**** my hole life i wanna b free of him 1 day but then again HE SCARES THE **** OUT OF ME plz help! i'm tra
2006-12-15 13:17:03 · 5 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know the details of this situation, but I can say this:
Think about how things would be if you were in your father's place. Apparently, he has lost the three of you as a familiy. While the details of this seperation is more or less the key behind his behavior, it is probably safe to assume that your dad doesn't know where to turn. He realizes that he has been making mistakes with the three of you, trying to control you, calling too much and being over protective and even over intrusive. Once he sees these mistakes, he then realizes that they are so big and so problematic that they will be near to impossible (he thinks) to fix. This leads to more stress on his part and even more recieved calls from him on your part. I believe your father is calling your family out of nervousness, frustration, and is desperatly looking for someone to either stand up to him or stand up with him.
The best thing you can do right now is bring the entire family together. Have everyone sit down in a room and just talk. Talk about your lives, talk about how things have been going for each of you. Take turns really listening and really sharing each other's problems, concerns, periods of joy and moments of pain. At first, your father may be a little shy about this. But once you convince him that he is in a secured setting, I'm willing to bet that the answers to your problems will come out through what he is feeling. I don't think your dad is faking Mr. Nice-Guy. I believe he is in a constant struggle of a "lost-identity." He has recently been turned away by his family. If anyone in this situation needs compassion and aid, it is your dad.
Please take the time to talk to him. I guarantee you it will help.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 13:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Fur and Fiction 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to block his # and see you on the schedule weekend on a scheduled time. If they are sepparated she dosent have to answer any of his q's. A restraining order may be in order where the judge, Somone who wont put up with his intimidations can straiten him out and he wont see you until this is understood and court is over. You can even appear. I am not intimidated buy many people and I only way 124 lbs. You both stand up for your freedoms.
2006-12-15 13:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Spinning Times LLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd seek for suggestion from out of your counselor at college perhaps she might want to help in a roundabout way and get your mom and also you someplace secure! Do you've relations you are able to visit? i'd stay some distance some distance faraway from him, a minimum of your mom made one step to seperate from him she will earnings the flexibility to divorce him at the same time as she is waiting.
2016-11-26 21:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your father has some mental health issues. Your mother need to stand up for herself and you kids. How old are you? Do you have to go on visitations? If you do how do they go? Have him arrested for harassment. Restraining orders. Do you have a mediator/court appointed advocate ? Talked to a counselor? It also sounds like your mother may need some counseling too. She needs to gain her self confidence back. When she does that she may be able to help you better.
2006-12-15 17:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Linda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat u should do is tell ur dad how u feel and then just give him time 2 get over it. he'll stop doin it after a while!
2006-12-15 13:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by valueablegirl435 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋