My co-worker seems to be paying extra attention to me for 2 months. I would have concluded that he likes me if not for the fact that he knows I am married.
We stay a mile apart and one day he called me on my mobile (He got my number for another co-worker) and asked if i want to get a lift to work. I've taken his car many times since then, and once when he knows I'm going for dinner alone, he offered to accompany me and we had dinner together. I've caught him (many times) looking in the direction of my desk when I'm not around. He also asked me for my MSN and we started msn-ing outside office hours some times. Somehow the days when it's not good, he will have noticed it and consoled me.
Recently I implied to him that there are some gossips in the office about him and people are watching when we talk, He said he doesnt care cause he know himself but I can see his mood is being affected after I said all this. what should i do now?
Am I being too harsh? I feel so bad after all this.
2006-12-15 13:13:17 · 14 answers · asked by isabella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is obviously very attached to you.
But is he just looking for a friend? Maybe he's just an extremely lonely person.
He knows you're married.
Don't be afraid to be his friend because of gossip and rumors. Just make sure he knows that friendship is as far as it goes.
2006-12-15 13:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married so I don't think you should lead him on. Since you already know he likes you then I would let him know nicely or how ever you prefer that you should keep your relationship professional. No outside stuff for married people,because I'm sure he knows that you know he likes you. No IM'S,MSN, nothing but office things, anything else is leading him on. Your married would you like it if your husband gave his attention to a co-worker that likes him, I think not.
2006-12-15 21:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by me me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're married, he should respect the fact that you do not rumors going around about you both. If you love your husband, draw a fine line where the "friendly hangout" starts, and the "seeing him too much" begins. Does your husband know? If its not something you would do with him knowing, you probably shouldn't be doing it.
2006-12-15 21:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you handled it correctly. Trust me, fair or not, that kind of gossip is harmful. Take it from an older, wiser women who has learned your lesson the hard way: Keep some distance.
2006-12-15 21:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married. If you want to stay married, then it's best not to give him false hope. Leading him on is worse for him in the long run.
2006-12-15 21:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by laura palmer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you are being too harsh you were just being honest but i think he was just respecting your space thats why he has been acting differntly to you. or maybe he got the point and he's embarresd so he is trying to chill for a while.
2006-12-15 21:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your actions seem to imply you are reciprocating, so why don't you take a giant step backward and remember you are married?
2006-12-15 21:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you .Stop and ask yourselk would you like it if your old man did the same?
Stop playing games with someones heart (your co-worker & your husband.
women like you make me sick
2006-12-15 21:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Donna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, you are being way too harsh, you SHOULD feel bad too
he probably just loves you, and you too cynical to even hear it or make any sense of that
not complicated I think
2006-12-15 21:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.... u kinda are. Just say, "I'm really sorry for being such an @sshole! Plzzz forgive me NOW!" LOL :D
2006-12-15 21:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Champion 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋