why is it that my boyfriend of two years feels like he constantly has to ***** at me? First thing he does in the morning, afternoon and night. He can't seem to let things go. We get along great other than this recurring issue. He makes me feel like such doo doo that I cant even do my job to earn money. I am always happy, laughing and then he comes around its all changes. What to do. We have been arguing about finance issues the last couple of weeks. I admit he spent some money but what he doesn't seem to grasp is I can get all that in weekend if he would believe in me and not constantly tear me down. I work three jobs, two in sales one computer related and he sells phones. I love him very much, I want this man to be my husband but how can I get him to wear the shoes I wear when he won't stop, as if he does not care how I feel as long as he sounds better to his own self, and being taken for granted is also how I feell.He has lived with me for about 14 months total. Any help?
2006-12-15 13:11:14 · 3 answers · asked by ~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to yourself!!!! Do you hear yourself?? "....first thing he does in the morning, afternoon and night.....he makes me feel like doo-doo.....I'm always happy until he comes around.....we argue about finance issues......he does not care how I feel as long as he sounds better to his own self....being taken for granted is how I feel....."
Now, can you tell me exactly when it is that you are "getting along great", because it seems like you are getting a whole lot more of the bad than the good. Honey....why on earth would you want to MARRY this man? You have found out the true him, what else do you need to know? Unless you are willing to deal with this crap for the rest of your life, get rid of him. If you are a happy, laughing person don't let this man suck all the life out of you. There are men out there who would love to meet a woman like you with a positive, cheery frame of mind.
2006-12-15 13:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how serious the arguments are. All good relationships have disagreements, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, but if your arguments are always one sided with him always coming out the "winner" then it could be a problem. If he's like this now you don't want to spend a life together like this, he's most likely to just get worse. You don't want to spend your life with someone who makes you feel unhappy and bad about yourself, so my advice is that if it continues and gets worse even after you talk to him about it then maybe the relationship's just not going to work out no matter how hard you try.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-15 13:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if he is this bad now he will be worse when married. I had one I had to account for buying underwear it was awful! It’s his way of controlling you. Think about this in your mind after 10, 20, 30, and 40 years of marriage do you really want to be controlled? also if usually these types of men continue worse into beatings to control you. Get couples counseling if he refuses get out? Diane
2006-12-15 13:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋