I was dumped about a month ago and it was really rough. He called me and told me he needed a break a couple of weeks before he dumped me. The phone call was mostly him crying to me and him saying he was angry at himself for having to do it (take a break). Then he dumped me and said he wanted to be alone. Is it likely that he did it because he's depressed?
2006-12-15 12:57:12 · 9 answers · asked by it.was.your.idea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes when people are depressed, all they wanna do is be alone, possibly because people irritate them, but maybe in your situation, maybe he thinks he's bad for you or something, he thinks if he leaves you, you'll be better off. Maybe he just needs to be alone to put things into perspective, tell him that you are always there for him with anything, be patient, but remember, dont let this suffocate your life, but do help him.
2006-12-15 13:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Blurred V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf seems like hes going through a really hard time in his life now. Maybe he just needed some time to be with himself. Be patient with him. If you think he's depressed, be a best friend and console him about it. Im sure he really needs it at this point.
2006-12-15 13:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by missattitude691 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very likely explanation. At a minimum, he's got some emotional problems commonly called issues these days. Being angry at himself for having to break up with you is not at all normal. It doesn't make any sense at all to me.
2006-12-15 13:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If he isn't sure that you would stick by him when he isn't his strongest, he may have felt that the only way to save you the pain of sticking by him is by dumping you. I have felt this low before, but luckily, my GF told me that she was there for me, and that it didn't matter what was going on, she was with me. Just let him know that you love him, and that you are there for him, and that if he wants to make it through things, then you will be right there with him every step of the way. Tell him that if he really wants to dump you, then that is his choice, but you don't agree with it and you wish that he would let you help him.
2006-12-15 13:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok from personal experience, he most likely is depressed. I have a major depression and sometimes things like that make trigger your old problems in life. He probably has a depression problem and thats why my relationship went downhill. Im guessing you still care about him, so get him help. He might need medicince or a therapist.
2006-12-15 13:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. I told my husband I wanted a permanent break because of the depression he has that gave him his addictions (alcohol, drugs, and illegal porn). He had me in a depressed mood before that, but since I made the decision to leave, I have been much happier.
2006-12-15 13:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be. but be honest w/ urself - were ya'll happy? in order for him to b an asset to u, he 1st m/b happy w/ himself! if he is depressed, u'll be able to tell by his convo; but if not, maybe he just needs time to sort out some internal issues...not necessarily 'depression'...
2006-12-15 13:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you realy need to have him be honest sit down talk in person try to get him to open up and explain whats going through his head i think if he is telling the truth you will know what to do
2006-12-15 13:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by im_nobody_to 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but if he hated himself for it then when he is done with his phase or whatever he's going through he wil prbably go back to you. But you should still try to help him with his troubles.
2006-12-15 13:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋