i have been seeing this guy and i found that he was married! but he wants to leave her for me. he says that i make him complete and he does things with me that he couldnt do with his wife because she isnt that type of person. he has givin alot up to be with me do you think that it is going to last? should i continue the relationship. because i dont the married thing at all.
2006-12-15 12:26:35 · 8 answers · asked by ms. williams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, it seems like when you got with him you didn't know he was married - and that's good. You'd be a horrible person if you knew in the first place and pursued it. Second of all, now that you do know, you need to lay down the law. Give him so much time to leave her and be with you, or you leave, because if you don't you're no better than if you got with him while you knew he was married. It's fair to her, she shouldn't have to stay with a man who is cheating on her, she shouldn't need to deal with it as it is, but it is what it is. It will only be okay on you're part if you tell him to leave and are strict about it. If he can't or he won't as soon as possible, then you NEED to leave him. Plus if you do this and you are serious about it, then it will bring out what he means by it. If he's just in it for the sake of an affair or if he really wants to leave her. Consider her, but consider yourself as well.
2006-12-15 12:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For him to NOT be honest with you in the first place says alot about this man (deceiving). Also, for him to be saying he would rather be w/ you because his wife couldn't do certain things says another (selfish and uncompromising). By walking away now, you will be doing the honorable thing. You also wanna see if he would still feel the same way about you after severing ties w/ his wife and being apart from you for some # of months even a year or so. Time apart from a your lover can help you both clear things up. Maybe in this time apart both of you can realize either how much you CAN or CAN'T live w/ out each other. Just remember to always have self respect, remember that karma's a b*tch and lastly relationships built on weak foundations tend to fizzle in a matter of months. Let the guy finish what he started w/ his wife so that he can have fresh start w/ you. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-15 14:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly, it's sneaky of him not to tell you he was married in the first place. Secondly, in a couple of years chances are he'll get bored of you and say exactly what he's saying to you now to some other woman. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-12-15 12:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only one thing for you to do and that
is not to continue the relationship as just like he
told you he would leave his wife for you he will
probably tell another he will leave you for the
other. Best you look for someone that can be
totally for you and not partly such as he is now.
If he is serious let him leave her first with the
divorce papers then if you want to continue
the relationship it will be up to you.
2006-12-15 13:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a toghie. He is married, so you probably should end it with him in order to avooid further conflict, unless he is planning to get divorced soon. No matter what you decide to do, just be careful.
2006-12-15 12:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask that question.....why?
probably a good chance you aren't the first woman he's said that too...nor the last....
2006-12-15 12:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do this to yourself. Most men arn't strong enough to follow thier heart, they' re too much into security & what comes easy!!
2006-12-15 12:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by lilly l 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run away very fast you are being used, abused, and lied to.
2006-12-15 12:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋