All you people who know the Holy Bible?

Question

Here's my question, and I'd prefer an answer backed up w/ a scripture if possible. I am in my 2nd marriage, and my husband is too. We are currently seperated for a couple of different reasons. I am taking our seperation as a time for us to get our lives right with God. I don't know His purpose for me or for him. But I do know that this seperation has a purpose. Or at least I believe it does. He looks at it as God saying this marriage is not what God has for him. I know God has not told him that (I can't explain why with only 400 characters left), but he is so discouraged because he doesn't have what he wants right now that he is only looking at things negatively. He asked me "How could God be in this marriage when he disobeyed him by divorcing his first wife" As if our marriage just could not be blessed by God. I don't know how to answer him without it being my opinion. Before I married him I asked God and he told me yes. I don't know if he asked God or not. Anybody have any suggestion

Answer 1

Just a suggestion, quit worrying about god and live your life. Because worrying about what god wants is ruining your marriage.

Answer 2

It's ridiculous how some people view and feel about God! If they don't bow now they will bow later! I think you should consider what God thinks and tells you and know its him. From what I understand and I may not be all the way right but if you are married the first time, then divorced, you are only allowed to divorce only if your spouse has misled you such as adultery. So if you or your husband's first marriage ended cause of this and now that you two are married and believers of Christ then I think your marriage is blessed and acknowledged through God. TRUST-the enemy WILL do all and anything he can to manipulate you or your husbands mind to believe that you should get divorced. You must be a prayer warrior for you and your husband because he is losing faith. P.U.S.H. Pray Until Something Happens! God knows your heart and your desires and if you keep on P.U.S.H.ing everything will work out according to his will! May God Bless you and your Family!!! Happy Holiday's!!!!

Answer 3

The bible says that if a believing woman departs from her husband then she should remain unmarried. It seems too hard to do what the Lord commanded us to do... in that the world has made it appear that it's almost a financial impossibility for a person to make it on their own... but if you look at the way you live and live the way that is pleasing to God then it's not impossible to live on your own by his grace. The world has also encroached onto the church in that it's taught in that we don't have to do what God says to be saved, and that divorce and remarriage aren't really against God. You asked for answers backed up by scripture. Does that mean that you are willing to follow what scripture says? Are you willing to take what it says above what you think God is telling you when what you think you're hearing and scripture don't say the same thing?

Answer 4

I can quote to you many Biblical Scriptures to your experience. However, the situation needs more of an attention to your self. When you came out of the world, you did not choose whose parents you wanted to have, who and how many siblings you wanted to be with. You did not choose the place you were born and most of the time during your formative and growing years you can count on your fingers the numbers of things that you are able to choose to do or to have. The only thing you probably are able to do is to find someone whom you promised to be with (unless of course it was an arranged marriage). Asking God for giving you the sign if the man you are going to marry is the right one is not really a 100 % helpful. It must be 100% coming from your heart, your feeling. True love does not deal with standards, it is certainly being ready to accept the stranger coming into your life to become your partner. Once you agree without reservation or hesitation, your decision to marry is your choice not God's. God could only give you His blessings if the two of you will live according what righteous people should rightly do, there He will be always in midst of you.
Take a look at yourself within and ask, did you expect your husband to be what you like him to be, instead of accepting him as he is and love him completely whatever shortcomings he may have? Was it the same way with him? Did you try to change for him or you expected him to change for you? Did you see him try to change for you? I am not recommending sacrifice here but for the second time you both married did you ask yourself what is it that I have (or do not have) to deserve this. God is not moving anyone like a chess pawn. Whatever fate you have at the moment is a result of the choice you make. If it was good, thank God and thank yourself for making the right judgement on your choice. If it was bad, it maybe was just a wrong judgement on the choice you made. You have a FREE WILL and your belief in God's decisions on your life is not true. Both of you are just looking for someone to point your fingers on if thing does not come out the way you wanted. Learn from those two divorce experiences and learn to love without reservations or condition. There is no sin in divorce, but there could be a sin in hiding to escape the real reason for leaving one another.

Answer 5

Matthew 5:31,32 “It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

Here are two texts, which concern your question. Now how could those who had divorces in the past be held to this new understanding? They could not beheld to it now could they?

Now to your problem, did you understand these verses when you both got divorced in the past? If not then how could you be held to them? If you did and you understood the meaning then you should never have gotten a divorce.

There is this also, the point that if you are true followers of Christ and you believe that Christ has died for your sins and have laid that sin at his feet and given it to Him, for you (goes for your husband also) cannot bear it. And have the Almighty God for forgiveness, and then you have been forgiven. If you truly are repentant of that or any sins then you will not repeat it.

Read 1 Corinthians 7.

There is more here than has been written or could be written. Pray and seek guidance from the Spirit of God.

Answer 6

This is not easy to say, as I am sure it's not easy to hear. But, you are still married to your first husband and are committing adultery with your second "husband". You want Bible verses?

Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him, saying, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?"
He said in reply, "Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mt. 19:3-6)

"Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the one who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery." (Lk. 16:18)

Jesus said to her, "Go call your husband and come back." The woman answered and said to him, "I do not have a husband." Jesus answered her, "You are right in saying, 'I do not have a husband.' For you have had five husbands, and the one you have
now is not your husband. (Jn. 4:16-18a)

Answer 7

I will try to help you with a couple of your questions.

Some sins cannot be undone. Divorce with remarriage is one of them.
God forgives all sins of his children and sent Jesus Christ to pay the death penalty for those sins, past present and future. This scripture can be found in John Chapter 3 verse 16. It can also be found many other places in the bible.

Your husband needs to read this and realize that no matter what he does right now, it cannot be made right (just as Adam knew that he could not do anything on his own to make right his act of disobedience) If he leaves you and somehow manages to get remarried to his first wife, or even if he remains single after he leaves you, he would still be guilty of committing adultry with you during your marriage.
This is very important for you both to understand. We cannot go back and undo some things that are done and past. We can only go forward and repent and commit to God that we will not repeat this sin again (at least not willfully), so if he divorced you he would be repeating an act that he knows is in disobedience to God.

The only thing that can be done at this point, is to save the marriage that he is in, in order not to repeat the original disobedience of his first divorce. God forgives and casts our sin away from him as far as the east is from the west. (sorry, I do not have that scripture chapter and verse in my head)

We are told not to remarry when we have to divorce, but once we do, we are only making things worse if we divorce again thinking that we are going to "fix" things with God. We do not fix things, only God fixes things, and his fix is the forgiveness of our sins.

Last, but not least, you will find a common theme throughout the bible, both old and new testament. God does not look at the outward acts of his children. He knows we will fail. He looks at the hearts of his children.
Abraham and Sarah believed upon God with all their hearts, they still went and tryed to help God out by having Hagar sleep with Abraham to produce a child. God said no, I promised that I would give you a son and it will be with sarah.

King David was a man after Gods own heart, yet he committed adultry with Bathsheba and once she was found to be pregnant, he tried to cover up the whole situation by having her husband killed on the front lines of the war.

God did not take Bathsheba away from King David, and did forgive him and even made their second child a future King (Solomon).

There are many more examples of Gods people making mistakes, but not repeating those mistakes, or trying to undo those mistakes.

Hopefully some of this will help you in this very difficult time and hopefully you both have a good biblically doctrinal pastor or mentor to talk with and learn from.

Answer 8

You need counceling on the Biblical issue from a good Bible teaching pastor... You both, based on your statement, have violated God's position on marrage and divorce and remarrage... if just one of you is a "believer". If both of you claim to be of The Body of Christ you both are not in God's good graces right now... this is not the place to seek such councel.

Answer 9

Christians still have a battle in their minds on who they are going to follow and serve. Our lives are full of daily or even moment by moment choices. Either we are going to seek doing God's will or the will of our "flesh" (earthly passions and desires).

Being born again, we live in two kingdoms: The kingdom of God and the kingdom of the world. Unless we know God and His will well, we will be straying from Him and messing up our lives.

Rom 8:4-8
who do not walk according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

5 For those who are according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.

6 For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace,

7 because the mind set on the flesh is hostile toward God; for it does not subject itself to the law of God, for it is not even able to do so,

8 and those who are in the flesh cannot please God.
NASU

Since you have decided to take this separation to get to know God, do it.
It isn't a week long seminar or a few visits to church. Getting into a weekly Bible class with some women who have proven themselves to be Christians is probably where you need to begin.
God reveals Himself through His word....and He listens to all your prayers for help.

Answer 10

Sometimes divorce is necessary.

Nobody likes it.

God divorced Israel.

Isa 54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

Jer 3:8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.

No matter what anybody does, God's grace is sufficient.

2Co 12:9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

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Answer 11

That ideal marital arrangement was disrupted by independent thinking and sin. (Genesis 3:1-19; Romans 5:12) In fact, a spirit of independence is one of the factors that leads to the severing of marital ties today.
A spirit of independence can cause marital strife.
But who is the main peace-wrecker?
Satan.
And how sad it is when any of God’s servants “allow place for the Devil” Ephesians 4:26, 27.

When Christian mates view separation as the only solution to their marital problems, they are in danger of succumbing to Satan’s devices, and there is something seriously wrong spiritually. (2 Corinthians 2:11)
God’s principles are not being applied fully by one or both of them. (Proverbs 3:1-6)
So they should promptly make prayerful efforts to resolve their differences.
If the marital situation is so bad that the Christian couple is considering divorce, it is to be pointed out that divorce and remarriage are Scripturally acceptable only if one’s mate has committed “fornication.” This term covers adultery and other forms of immoral sexual relations and perversions. (Matthew 19:9; Romans 7:2, 3)
Yet, what if “fornication” has not been committed but marital peace is seriously threatened?
What do the Scriptures say about legal or de facto separation?

The apostle Paul’s words:
“To the married people I give instructions, yet not I but the Lord, that a wife should not depart from her husband; but if she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband; and a husband should not leave his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11)
Christian mates should be able to settle their problems, making allowances for human imperfection. No problem should be so great that it cannot be resolved by praying earnestly, applying Bible principles, and showing the love that is a fruit of God’s spirit.—Galatians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.

Prayerful thought should be given to problems that separation is likely to create. For instance, a one-parent family seldom provides what two-parent families can in balance and discipline. And separation may have an impact on children similar to that of divorce, regarding which the journal India Today reported:
“Sheena, with large eyes that seem to take in the whole world, is six. Her parents divorced two years ago after an ugly court battle. Soon after, her father married another woman. For a year she got bad attacks of asthma and constantly sucks her thumb. She lives with her mother in South Delhi. The mother: ‘My sadness has travelled to Sheena. . . . She misses her father. She has these uncontrollable bouts of crying, as if she wants to take out something from within her. School was a problem. Often, she retreats into a world of make-believe: she makes up a story about all of us going out together for her friends.’”

Often, separation does not work out well for a Christian husband and wife either. They soon learn that without a mate or the children there is a gnawing void. Not to be ignored are the pressures resulting from separation. Will it be possible to care for matters from a financial standpoint or otherwise? And what if the strain of separation results in a fall into immorality? Jesus said: “Wisdom is proved righteous by its works.” (Matthew 11:19) Especially when both mates are Christians, what is worked out through separation has sometimes proved to be very unwise.

Christian mates who find their marital peace seriously threatened should discuss their differences in a manner befitting those who serve God. And they surely ought to make allowances for imperfection. (Philippians 2:1-4) Displaying wisdom in connection with material things can contribute to marital peace. To illustrate: After considering his wife’s negative viewpoint, a man may decide, nevertheless, that it is wise for his family to move elsewhere. This may seem advisable for economic reasons. His Christian wife may not favor the move because she would be leaving behind her parents or familiar surroundings. But she will be wise to cooperate fully with her husband, who is the head of the household and has the responsibility of determining where his family will live. Moreover, her submissiveness and loving cooperation will contribute to domestic peace.
Ephesians 5:21-24.

Family peace flourishes and problems seem less serious when marriage partners do things together. There may be various opportunities to strengthen the marriage bond by sharing in other wholesome activities especially enjoyed by one mate or the other.
Properly exercised headship will strengthen marital ties. Of course, the mature Christian husband will not be a dictator. Rather, ‘he will keep on loving his wife and will not be bitterly angry with her.’ God expects him to exercise loving headship. (Colossians 3:18, 19)