We were close before and her marriage laster about 10 yrs. He has been gone for almost a year now....so any opinions?
No children are involved with either of us.
2006-12-15 11:50:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A year is plenty of time. Life is short, live it!
2006-12-15 11:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were friends with her husband then start out conversations about good things that happened when he was around. The hard part is getting your friend to understand you would like to be closer. A year is a long time but the wound is still fresh so be careful. This time is the time when you could either gain her or lose her. Don't just go right out and ask her. Start by doing friend things and slowly gain her trust more and then from there you need to move slowly into a gf bf situation but don't rush it. Take as much time as possible so she doesn't get the impression you are trying to make her forget her husband or that you are trying to take his place. Start as a confident and then work from there.
2006-12-15 19:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by JEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't wait until exactly a year has passed! Nothing could be worse than sharing your first "date" talk with the day your husband died. Wait about six more months, and then approach the subject gradually, like maybe go out for coffee a couple of times before you say anything about a relationship. Pretty soon, she'll fall for you and won't be able to say no.
2006-12-15 19:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by quizicalgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that a year has been plenty of time. It all depends on the woman really. Is she ready to let go of what is gone and move forward. You are going to want to take your time with this issue. Don't rush things, because in the end, she might end up resenting you over it. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-15 19:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. My Mom is still grieving, and it's almost 10 years since she lost my Dad.
The only way you're going to find out is if you ask. It's been almost a year so you shouldn't be thought too forward for asking.
2006-12-15 20:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't ALLOW a woman to grieve over her lost spouse, it isn't your decision whether she does or not. Second, if you love her, you will wait until she thinks she is ready to move on. If you push her, it may work at first, but it won't work out in the end.
2006-12-15 19:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by STLchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her as much time as she needs. This is a HUGE loss, and a very big deal to her. They must have been very close, being together for 10 years. It would have killed me inside. Just do not pressure her into anything, and feel it out.
2006-12-15 19:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 minutes
2006-12-15 19:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she needs. don't pressure her or she'll push you away and you might loose her. it is hard to loose someone especially someone you loved and spent 10 years of marriage with. don't be so insensitive
2006-12-15 19:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she needs too. You could make life more comfortable for her by being a caring friend.
2006-12-15 19:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by SheRa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋