but they do not realize the severity of the depression I am experiencing and they are giving me generic advice, like everybody goes through hard times....and maybe in the spring you will fell better....in the spring? I really can't see past monday, I need to make some drastic changes with my life, if i do anything they wll just think I am irrational not that I am doing it because I am trying to stop myself from doing something worse like suicide, any advice?
2006-12-15 11:26:34 · 7 answers · asked by maria m 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Maria, when we are in a depressed state - we think that those around us do not understand and give generic advice. We go through a kind of tunnel vision and seldom see they are very concerned.
Most likely they are at a loss of what to do. If we don't listen in our depressed state to those we love, are we really going to listen to outsiders on the internet who may or may not have our best interest at heart?
Your mom and fiancé really don't know what to do for you and are hoping for the best. The truth is - yes - everyone goes through depression.., and sometimes it seems there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Then suddenly we break through and see that it was indeed a passing thing.
Number One:
Do anything and everything to get your mind off your self. This is the biggest mistake we make by doting on.., "me". "My problems". "Nothing makes me happy any more". Try focusing your energies on helping others and bring a smile to their faces. Odds are, when you successfully help someone get a smile, thanks you or just simply smiles even without the thank you.., there is a self contentment that kicks in.
Oh - and not everyone will say thank you or smile.., but thats their problem. Know you done good and take satisfaction in that knowledge. After all, Knowledge is not only power, its empowering.
2006-12-15 11:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. You are having a mental breakdown. A nervous breakdown is when your nervous system shuts down. You're just going nuts, that's all. And why wouldn't you be anxious? The man you love is risking his life, things are breaking, you aren't having a good week. I think the stress just got to you. It's okay. It's not permanent, I promise. You'll pull through. As for the breathing and the dizzy spells... that's a little thing called an anxiety attack. Yep. Those can get so bad it feels like a heart attack. Valium helps..... but what works for me? I watch a sappy LifeTime movie special and cry my guts out while eating a pint of ice-cream. Then I go take a hot bath while drinking some camomile tea. I'm so pooped from crying, plus the hot bath that I just pass out. Next morning I am rested and WAY better prepared to face the day and get done what needs doing. Give yourself a break. You are allowed to get overwhelmed every now and again!
2016-05-22 22:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make an appointment to see a psychologist immediately.
In the meantime, buy a journal and write down everything you feel and why. Don't keep it inside. Whatever is bothering you eats at you and it gets worse and worse. The longer you keep it in, the more likely you will explode.
By jotting things down, you get it out. You also could come to the realization of what is at the root of why you feel the way you do. Just let it flow out onto the paper on what's bothering you. These are real feelings. Don't let anyone tell you, "you're just being too sensitive and it will pass".
Get the tears out too, scream if you want to... don't hold it in
You need to talk to a professional that has the knowledge to help you further. Your fiance should be part of this since he is a major part of your life, but if he does not want to go then you need to go without him.
The other thing you should do is see all the positives in your life - fiance, family, friends, career, etc. Life is worth living past Monday... think of the son or daughter you will have... think of the son or daughter they will have... a good way to do this is to look at you and your fiance's baby pictures.
2006-12-15 12:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a therapist. If you can't afford it there are a lot of free group therapy programs. But get professional help.
2006-12-15 11:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by t s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make an appointment with a Dr. They can give you something to help you. Do it soon.
2006-12-15 11:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
travel the world, try something new. sell ur house and buy a new one. Im thinking drastic is something you should do, becuase it seems you need a change in your life. Maybe this is a midlife crisis
2006-12-15 11:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to tell yourself that you can do anything, you can be anyone, most importantly you can BE YOURSELF. Stick up for yourself, stand up for yourself, be your own motivator, be your own person.
2006-12-15 11:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by wind_ow_pain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋