This girl in my division at work (who has a bf) who i've only known for 1 week, regularly suggests that we go for walks in the company garden during work hours when we both aren't busy, always says how much i'm like her bf danny in almost everything, and rests her head in short bursts on my shoulder during work. Additionally we were going to go out on friday night with our whole division to work drinks, but she said she had to go home. I ended up going out with other mates instead of my work colleagues to another bar, and she messages me later on asking why I wasn't at the work drinks function.
I've been trying to give her little to zero attention even though i do have slight feelings. Is she just attention seeking or is she trying to hit on me?
2006-12-15 11:24:40 · 7 answers · asked by hegimony1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, don't date someone you work with. always a bad call to **** where you eat. if you start something with her and it doesn't work out (for 8 million possible reasons) you're going to have to face her every single day, the office will begin to gossip, her boyfriend will find out, and then after it's all said and done, you will have to watch her date other people. all around, bad call. (especially if you've only been there a week. focus on the new job, first, then poonanny later)
don't go with her for walks. she obviously digs you and wants to make sure you dig her too. she probably won't cheat on her boyfriend if she really loves him or maybe even lives with him, but girls like to know that there is a guy interested for future backup. if things don't work out with him, she wants to know that you're available later.
if she's messaging you later, tell her you're with another girl or something. she is craving attention AND trying to hit on you. don't fall into her trap. you've only known her a week and don't know her game. any respectful woman wouldn't play that game if she had a boyfriend.
2006-12-15 11:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, big guy, I'd say you are being played. I mean, she's got a boy friend and she also has you to lead around by the nose...in the garden...at the bar...wherever.
She must be hot or you wouldn't be interested and simply ignore her. I'd back way off, if I were you. If she continues to give you kitty-kat brushes on the shoulder, tell her that it makes you uncomfortable being that she has an admitted boyfriend.
Then, find someone that you can have real relationship with. No woman is so hot that you should lose your self-respect for her. Move on.
2006-12-15 19:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a little bit of both. she has a bf so stay away even if those feelings you have get stronger. since she is obviously deceitful, flirting with you while she has a b/f, she is likely to lie to him and tell him you are the one hitting on her, to get herself out of trouble, if he ever found out. dont get caught up with a chick like that, she will only get you into trouble. find a decent girl who isnt flirting with you behind her b/f's back, and at work, avoid her as best you can. and if that cant be avoided, tell her straight forward to back off. you arent interested in her game playing.
2006-12-15 19:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing with you and is hoping to get her boyfriend attention by making him jealous tell her to quit the games and move on
2006-12-15 19:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cud just be flirty, and she doesnt realise she is doing it.. it is just a friendly thing to rest her head on ur shoulder.
you should just let her be, dont ignore her, she will just hate you, but if she does try anything more remind her she has a bf. x
2006-12-15 19:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an attention seeker, shes probably trying to get things from you that her bf isn't getting
2006-12-15 19:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you rich?
2006-12-15 19:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by dotcombust007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋