So I have a guy I get together with for casual sex sometimes. We were seeing each other then ended it, and now we just have sex. Anyways we were talking that we are only gonna sleep with each other. He asked me if I was sleeping with anyone else, I said no, then I said it shouldnt matter if I did anyways. He said he would care if I was, then I asked him why he said because...So if its casual why would he care?
2006-12-15 11:20:35 · 14 answers · asked by Monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because guys are possesive...even if they don't want to date you they don't want to think of you hooking up with other guys. Simple as that.
2006-12-15 11:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't something just physical; it's emotional and spiritual, too. There was never meant to be such a thing as casual sex for humans. Yeah, people do have casual sex and that's their prerogative . . . you just can't make sex something it's not.
He may be trying to find out how safe your sexual lifestyle is, and that wouldn't be a bad thing seeing that STDs and HIV are much higher than they would be if people were more careful or cared an iota about the people they were sleeping with.
It seems to me that sex has brought you closer (at least for him). That's what sex was meant to be, a full gesture of love. Some people can ignore that longer than others. I think he gets the idea even if he doesn't understand it entirely.
May you consider a long-lasting commitment with him. You've already given him your body, and he gave his to you.
2006-12-15 19:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, we guys don't make sense....we want to be the man, sleep with whoever we want, and have them only desire us....i know it doesn't make sense, but it's true....he likes you, but he likes other women as well.....he does have feelings for you, it's hard not to when you are having sex, even if it is just 'casual'. He wouldn't have asked you if you were sleeping w anyone else if he didn't care.....
2006-12-15 19:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by j-chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a "guy thing". We tend to be posessive by nature without really knowing why. Maybe it's part of our animal heritage. Anyway, why would you care if he cares or not? Sounds like a VERY casual relationship all the way around to me.
2006-12-15 19:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if I was just in a 'casual sex' relationship (just lovers) - I still would not want to be someones 'second helping' or be 'first helping' and have someone else be 'dessert'.
Casual is not the same as 'sleeping around'.
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2006-12-15 19:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by cyclgrrl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
probelly because aids and std are a big issues know days and he just wants to make sure hes safe. u cant blame the man would u want to be sleeping with someone who was with 6 people including u no. u woudnt
2006-12-15 19:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of two reasons...perhaps both.
One: He is worried about the potential health risks if you were having sex with someone else.
Two: He still has feelings for you and would be hurt bu the idea of you having sex with someone else.
2006-12-15 19:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with DEREK J Guys do tend to be possessive even if they (we) try not to. He just doesn't like the idea of "his girl" in bed with someone else.
2006-12-15 19:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by joshatgrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your better off without him altogether, as some point he is going to get jealous and probably physical with you over some other guy. don't take the chance.
2006-12-15 19:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's being stupid. Don't sleep with a guy you don't have a relationship with. Did you ask him if he was having sex with somebody else too?Tell him if you want you can and he can't do anything about it if you guys are not together!
2006-12-15 19:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by shaniemr 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋