there is this guy that i have been dating for for about one month, and i met him whem my friend and i got our tatoos, togethor. well we have gone out on a date to the movies and the second date was at a cofee shop and he was telling me some personal this about his life and his little boy and his baby momma. Well he never calls me during the week becuase he says that hes knows im in school and he only likes to text to say hey. I asked him to attend my christmas party with me with my big company. He dosent really call me that much but he always texts me throught the week to say hello and see how im doing and he calls on the weekands when im not busy. i like him but would you say he is intrrested are we dating at all because i think its rather significant to attend a person holiday party that your dating. this would be our third date. he does have custody issues going on with his kid but i dont really know if he even likes me onr not . basically should i waste my time?
2006-12-15 11:08:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way. You had 2 dates with a guy who has a child and didn't marry the women he impregnated, He's a loser who doesn't even call you! Don't waste your time. He doesn't like you, his life is a mess and he's probably a lousy man and father,
2006-12-15 11:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you also a parent? if you are not, you have to remember that he is. he is leading a completely different life than you. his priorities are much more different. while you are attending christmas parties, he's babysitting.
some guys just don't like talking on the phone. i don't even like talking on the phone. when you lead a really busy life, calling just to talk is really obnoxious. those people drive us nuts. we have so much going on. to send a text to say hi is our way of saying, hi, we're thinking about you, but don't have time to shoot the ****.
and don't invite him as your date to a christmas party. you should have at least been dating 6 months before you take that step. that is something that a relationship does together, not just meeting each other. he's probably not even that comfortable with you yet, let alone facing your entire office as your date.
accept it, he is not your significant other just yet. his son is his significant other. that should always be his top priority as a parent. his schedule should revolve around his son, and since you are not a parent, it may drifve you crazy later that he can't go out to a bar when you want to, or go out to the movies.
don't put so much pressure on him to settle and start going to weddings or parties are your date. it's only been a month! sheesh! settle down, there! and don't read so much into it!
2006-12-15 19:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok-he told you some stuff about him. Does he ask you stuff about you (on the dates)? Guys that are truly interested in you will naturally be curious about your life.
I don't think the texting thing is something you should hang onto. I read a site on craig's list that men do the texting thing so they don't have to talk to women directly when they are just seeking sex.
I could be wrong, but I have a suspicion he's not as into you as he should be. The fact that he only calls you on the weekends is funky. Did you tell him yourself not to call you during the week because you're busy? Or is that his excuse? I would advise you to just be careful on this guy.
Bring a good friend to your function, not this guy.
2006-12-15 19:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I Do not think it is a waste of time, but you may be looking to much into it as well. If you know that He is already having issues with a woman, I do not think that he is trying to get in a relationship at this moment. You know Love comes Slower between friends but then you know that it is genuine. So Just be his Friend and give him all the support and space he need right now. And then when He is ready He will take the next step.Then also you can text Him on a weekday and ask him out for a Short lunch to check on him and to make things are going well for him. really Do not rush it, Just be a Friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-15 19:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you, but maybe has some issues to work out. Maybe not with the kid, but maybe some of his own issues. When the subject of a party came up, did you just mention it, or did you actually say the words to invite him? There is a difference. Some guys with kids feel like damaged goods. they wont put out a lot of effort because they feel like they will get rejected anyways. Maybe show him a bit more audibly.....
2006-12-15 19:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by oceanblue_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, yes you are wasting your time. That guy is still having big issues with his baby mama. As a matter of fact his situation is beyond issues he has 'DRAMA' going on in his life with that woman. If he can't make time for you than that means that she is controlling his life and/or he is still involved with her.
2006-12-15 20:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by kimmie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby B
Ask him to this party and if he text you Hey then he is not interested and you can move on to a better man
2006-12-15 19:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider him just a friend, and date other men who interest you.
2006-12-15 19:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about moving on, but if i were you i wouldn't wait around for this guy!
keep your options open and your calendar full.
2006-12-15 19:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋