can you love two men at the same time? And if yes, how do you choose?

Question

I currently live with my boyfriend, we have discussed that I am not happy. We've basically been living together since day one of our relationship and I think we've put way to much pressure on our relationship by living together so soon. I'm still in love with my Ex, we have a lot of unresolved issues, and honestly i would be disapointed if i did not end up marrying him. Still i do love and care for my current boyfriend how do i explore my issues with my ex and keep from hurting my current boyfriend? Is this possible? Or am I just being selfish.... HELP!

Answer 1

I think it is possible to "like" two men at the same time, but to love two men...I don't know. To me, it sounds like you care for your current boyfriend but that you might still love your ex or have lingering feelings for him.

If I were you, I would look into getting my own place, my own space so I could figure things out for myself. As long as you're living with your current boyfriend, you won't be happy, you'll be hurting him, and you'll continue to be confused.

Answer 2

I believe that you can be in love with two people at the same time. However I believe that you need to discuss this with your current boyfriend first. The reason that I say so is that your current boyfriend may not be able to handle, you being in love with another, at the same time that you are with him. And if this is the case you two may not be meant for each other. It's not fair to your current boyfriend, especially when you say that you'd be upset if you did not end up marrying your EX. I don't think it's possible to keep from hurting your current boyfriend the way that you have explained your situation. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

If you haven't cheated on your current yet, then you're not selfish. You are in a huge dilemma with no easy answer. The love you have for your current or your ex may be more friendship than intimate? Who lets you be who you are? Who do you feel the most YOU with? Sometimes true love isn't the fantasizing, weak-kneed thing the movies make it out to be or the same feeling you had when you first met them. It's feeling like you want that person to be the last person you talk to at night and the first one in the morning. It's the person that you can share the most embarrassing thing you did with or someone you know you can tell the most mundane thing to and not worry what they'll think of you. Good luck.

Answer 4

It is possible that you still have feelings for both guys. But ask yourself if you are interested in your ex now because you see qualities in him that your current boyfriend is lacking? I think you should take your time and really think about what decisions you are making. Why did you break up with your Ex in the first place? What did you see in your current boyfriend that made you fall in love with him? If I was you I would make a list of pros and cons that each boyfriend has, it may sound silly but you can visually see what qualities you like and don't like in both of them. But one thing that's true is you'll be selfish to string along your current boyfriend while you figure out what will happen between you and your ex. Maybe you just need time to yourself to really sit and think about who you really want to be with, but whatever you do be honest with both of them.

Answer 5

Its definitely possible to love two men at once but its not possible to love them equally. You must love one more than the other. From your situation it seems like you love your ex more than your current boyfriend and thats ok. You just have to think very hard about each guy and make a list of pros and cons, such as which would make you happier and who you honestly love more and could see a future with. Who is the better man in terms of job, stability, and personality. Also, who is the better man for you. Which can't you stand being without and can never let go no matter how hard you try. Which makes you feel better when you see him? theres many questions you can ask yourself, but the main one is who you really love more. Trust me you can choose and just think about which guy also loves you with all his heart. Good Luck!

Answer 6

be careful with decisions and also with peoples hearts
the current boyfriend does like you and cares a great deal for you from what I believe and understand. the ex after all is the ex
Why are you still stuck on the guy that is gone.
What about how nice the current guy you are with is like
is there something going on with the ex that is happening that you have not divulged here.

If you want to marry the ex why are you not with him instead of the guy your with right now.
this is a little confusing.
I think choosing would be a really good idea as two at one time can be very distracting and very hard on emotions. for you and them... Good luck

Answer 7

I think x;s are called that for a reason and if it is to hard to choose than you will not be with either one in the next 2-3yrs anyway.So move out and live on your own get a life of your own if your not to chicken of that.Been there done that never works.Independence is the only way to truly be happy.Then if you meet some one then it will be cause you want too.not cause you have to choose.Good luck on your new life or not.

Answer 8

Well you have to choose, otherwise they'll kill each other sooner or later : )
You should discuss things with your ex, solve the problems. If you can't solve all of them, stay with your bf. But it sounds like you love your ex more, then you guys really need to talk.

Answer 9

you can't love 2 men at the same time, are you with yer current guy for stability? waiting for the ex to get everything together, your going to eventually hurt one or the other, if not, both...you need to follow yer heart and stop playing games with these guys

Answer 10

odds are is he is a ex for a reason!!!You just are not happy in this relationship so you are thinking of only the good in your past one!Move on from both and find your true love hes out there!!!!