I have been in an long distance relationship for 2 years, Over time he has meantioned coming down, and has mentioned sex. I really dont want to disappoint him, he means the world to me but I really want to save myself for marriage. I am I guess what people would call 'a late bloomer' I've never had never had a boyfriend (Im not including long distance, I mean actual dating), sex, fooled around, or actually been kissed. Hell, I'm 19 and I didnt know girls could masturbate until a short while ago (yes Im a girl). I dont think he would pressure me into it, but as Ive said I have absolutely no sexual exeriences what so ever, and I know Im going to feel hella ackward if he wants to try other things.
I do think that we are a long ways off to actually seeing each other because he goes to a pristege (sp?) college so its hard keeping contact and from what I understand, a somewhat strict home setting but this has been on my mind for quite sometime, so I really would like advice.
2006-12-15 10:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by capt'n mewmew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To answer some questions, no I havent meet him yet, I havent seen his picture yet either. I know, what am I doing seeing a guy for so long that hasnt even shown a picture. I do understand that, that isnt always available, he has reasons and I respect that.
We have talked some about it, but not much though, I havent had the chance to talk to him cause he has been busy with college.
I honestly have no intention of having sex but I would like to try to please him. I have never felt anything of the sort, and I also want to come out of my shell more, I would truely love to experience those feelings with him and continue to do so. I have my fears and my worries but for once I want to put those aside. I've never given myself a chance, afriad that Im not good enough, I want to prove myself wrong, and be able to show someone I love, how I feel, effectively.
2006-12-15 10:53:27 · update #1
You're really weird, in a good way of course, go watch those vids I sent you, they're music videos!
2006-12-17 12:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with your thinking , it's to hear a young woman is still a virgin. keep doing what your doing to stay that way , but in the end it's going to happen . But I think your making to much of the guy and sex for the fact that you masturbate it's not going to last that long , if it lasts 30 min. I'll be totally surprised but you never can tell . If and when the time comes place liquid KY jelly on two fingers and rub it inside of yourself it will take some of the sting away when he enters you.
2006-12-15 10:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Pray to GOD and ask HIM to lead you the way. Then Keep up the good work it is very rare to see a pure teenager. Keep it real and honest with him about the situation it will be easier then you think, and if He do not understand, That only means that He was not the Man that GOD Have for you as Your First, Your Last, And Your Only. Best of Luck!!!! GOD Bless You!!
2006-12-15 11:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not actual that your breasts end starting to be after your first era. you're 12 or 13 suitable? relax. communicate on your mum approximately this. Your boobs will strengthen extra. while you're particularly in contact ask your mum to make an appointment with the traditional practitioner.
2016-10-15 00:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is like your world to have, go for it but if you want to save yourself till marriage sure. Just have a talk to him. Don't be afraid. After all that time you have known him, you should be confident to yourself so just talk up. I've seen people hide away from their boyfriends but their broke up so I gave my advice in and there, their got a real good relationship
2006-12-15 10:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sankiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save yourself for marriage, I would be honest and tell him. If that is really what you want to do, stick to it. You will feel alot better about yourself if you do. Don't let any man try to talk you into having sex if your not ready.
2006-12-15 10:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by confused angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you have been talking to this guy two years and have never once touched on these issues. I think you should do some more communicating first.
2006-12-15 10:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him look, sex isn't going to happen and if has that on his mind, stay where he's at. Be blunt and straight to the point so there's no misunderstanding.
2006-12-15 10:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If he really cares about you he won't pressure you but if you do decide to get intimate with him it will all just flow naturally. You are a woman, and we are naturally caring and sensual creatures. Don't worry, just do what feels right to you.
2006-12-15 10:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by sebsley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know all this stuff he told you is true you need to see him to settle that first and then decide if you want to continue to see him then you can decide if you wan t to go on with this relationship
2006-12-15 10:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋