Hi,.. i have a 14 year old daughter who in fresmen... i juss recieve her report card today .. i was not very happy when i saw her grade. should i ground her from internet, tv,and other thing until she keep up with her grade. please i need some advice for parent who care about their kids education.. i really do care about her education... take my time out from work to go to her school meeting and other that related with her... but still.. what can i do...please no joke or funny answer.. that why iam here....
any teach or parent who has teen who goes to high school please help me .... thank you soooooooooo much...... :)
2006-12-15 10:30:48 · 20 answers · asked by ashley40888 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Either ground her from electronics or contact her teacher and find out the reason for low grades,missing or late assignments. Once homework is checked then x number of minutes on electronics.
2006-12-15 10:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by danp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep... take away priveledges that are important to her. If she loves her email and text messaging on her phone, those are good to take, as well as music. Those are all priveledges that can be earned back with a good grade. Just don't make the waiting too long... I suggest talking with the teacher of the class with the bad grade, and making some kind of checkpoint. Say, in two weeks, the teacher will let you know how she is doing- if she has improved enough for the teacher's liking or not. Then, armed with this information, you can proceed with further discipline or give back a priveledge that was taken. Discuss this method with your daughter... she is plenty old enough to be responsible for her actions and make appropriate choices. So, make her a part of the solution- she can choose which priveledge she gets back first, based on her performance in the classroom. Also have her be proactive and have her ask for any extra credit that she could do to raise her grade. Glad you are a concerned parent!
2006-12-15 10:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If she is getting bad grades because she doesn't understand the class then you need to help her, not hurt her. She may need some tutoring or extra help.
But-if she's getting bad grades because she will not do the work, is just sitting in class and acting out then yes, it's time to take away some privledges. TV, Internet and other things are not rights, they are privledges and should be respected that way.
My son is 8 and he got into trouble and he had things taken away. He didn't have bad grades but just basic 8 year old stuff that needed to be corrected.
My older son doesn't do well in school either but he lives with his dad. If he lived with me you can bet things would be very different. I would not and will not tolerate bad grades. There is really no reason for it unless there is a learning disability. If she does not have this then work with her.
You need to figure out if she doesn't understand, or if she's goofing off. A good place to start is with her and her teacher. I hope you can find some time to speak with her teacher [If you're a working mother it has to be hard] then you'll be able to know what's going on better.
If she's just doing it because she doesn't want to work take away things. Tell her that she must earn them. You don't have to take them away forever just long enough to let it sink in. Hopefully it will! Good luck to you. I know it's hard to deal with.
2006-12-15 10:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest the you talk to her teachers about why she got such a low grade. It could be that it is just too tough for her, or she does not turn in her homework, does not pay attention or any other reason. But until you figure out why it happened will be hard to correct her. One semester I really had to lean on my child because she decided that talking with her friends in class was more important than paying attention or doing homework. She learned quickly. I cancelled all TV, computer time, and phone calls until this was straightened out. She had to earn that privilege back. Then I threatened to go with my daughter from class to class because of her talking and not paying attention in school. I gave her one week to straighten up before I would implement this. I told her I would be calling her teacher of Fridays for a report and she had straighten this out on her own. Believe me when I say that possible embarrassment in front of her peers is the best motivator I could have thought of. It was amazing how quickly she became a model student. I never had to go follow her in school, thank God but I was willing. She has been an honor student for the last two years now and an all around good kid. You may not like this approach but it worked for me. We both chuckle about it now. Good luck.
2006-12-15 12:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with her about it. Don't yell at her or assume anything until you have heard what she has to say. Maybe her classes are too difficult for her and she needs extra help. Maybe she hasn't been devoting enough time to studying and homework. You seem to have no idea as to the cause of her low grades. My mother was always very in touch with me when it came to school, which I believe was part of the reason I always did so well. She asked me what I had learned and what was coming up, and I was excited to tell her. Don't let your daughter start treating school like a negative thing or a reason for getting a stern lecture. Find out what's wrong and then help her to improve.
2006-12-15 10:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she values the TV and Internet time, then I would ground her from that. Talk to her teacher in that particular subject and see how she performs in class. See if you and the teacher can work something out that will help her get her grades back up. Talk to your daughter. Is it something she's just not getting the hang of yet? Maybe she needs tutoring in that particular subject. Be firm with her, but help her. If she's just goofing off in class with a friend or boyfriend, I would take away all privileges until the grade shows improvement. Hope that this helps.
2006-12-15 10:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, does she have low grades in general or just one low grade? I am 15 years old, have an A average in general, but got a C in french this term because we had a new teacher from europe who wasn't used to the marking system here. If it's just one or two subjects you should ask her what happened. If she has bad grades in general though, talk to her, talk to her teachers, find out what's up. She may have some personal problems, a learning disabillity, or she could be being bullied. It's no use grounding her until you get to the root of the problem.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 10:41:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether your daughter is truly trying but doesn't understand the work or if she is not doing/turning in her homework and not paying attention in class. The first thing I would do would be to set up a confrence with the teacher(s) to find out why she is getting bad grades. For punishment, anything that she does that takes up time when she could be doing her homework is what you should restrict her from. Make a deal that she can't do ___ until she gets her grades up and shows that she is trying to succeed in school. If she just doesn't understand the work, see if you can help her or get her set up with a tutor.
2006-12-15 10:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is monitor her schoolwork. Most schools have online access for parents to see what is being covered each week with their assignments. Be sure these assignments are being completed.
I would also recommend requesting a parent/teacher conference to discuss the bad grade. This will allow you to discuss with her teacher why she received a bad grade, and will also allow the teacher to tell you what needs to be improved.
I am against punishment for bad grades - there maybe several circumstances that are unknown to you and caused your daughter to get this bad grade....the conference would also help you with identifying if there is some sort of circumstance.
Glad to hear you care! Many parents do not!
2006-12-15 10:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by reneeeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being grounded for stuff like that. I just made me mad. I think it was a good way of teaching consequences, however. I would suggest setting aside an hour, at least, every night and work on the homework with your daughter. Also you could make her do her homework at the kitchen table, or somewhere that you are available to watch and help her. Good luck.
2006-12-15 10:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by bnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋