Rape Survival?

Question

I was raped a little over a year ago and then raped again (by a different person) 3 weeks ago. Ive seens doctors and therapists, and nothing helps. I cant even leave my house. I dont know what to do, please help.

Answer 1

Honey, you need to get into a support group of women like you.

There are women all over this world who have been raped, 2 out of the 4 women in my family have been.

Its something like 4 in 7 will be in their life. Its a horrible statistic but it is the reality of being a woman.

You need to talk to women openly who have experienced this too. Watching and hearing and helping them overcome these issues will be the greatest way you can heal yourself.

Being in the company with people who have been through the same thing as you will make you realize that your not the only one, and that it is something you CAN overcome.

And please don't take this the wrong way, but if you are involved in risky business like : drugs, late night partying, strip clubs, being out late at night in dangerous neighborhoods, random sexual partners, being a swinger, group sex, etc... You have to learn to stay away from these things because these things invite dangerous people. Even if you work as a bartender downtown you have to practice safety in numbers.

Understand that I am not implying anything about your life at all.

Also, get yourself a big (friendly ) but intimidating or scarey lookin dog. And go on walks with your dog. He will be a companion, a friend, that will help the healing process and will make you feel safe. You can cuddle your dog friend at night and he will guard you. And you can even take him to training classes and teach him how to protect you.

It will be ok. Give yourself time. I don't know if your religious but praying also helps a great deal. Ask God to make you feel safe and to not have fear. Tell him to give you strength and peace and understanding. Don't continue to be a victim.

And also one more thing that is the hardest to do.

Forgive the bastard that raped you. I mean don't try to find him to tell him but in your heart and mind try to learn to forgive him.

That sounds completely whack but through forgiveness, you will eventually learn to almost forget because your heart has truly let it go.

How could you ever possibly learn to forgive someone who rapes women??

Well, any human who's heart resides in getting pleasure from forcibly raping some innocent person, is f*cked up in the head.

And although you are miserable now, this person is crazy, f*cked up, angry, and miserable every day. They are not sane. They are an animal. They are pathetic. And they also live in fear of someone finding out.

Your life is normal and theirs is not. Remember this.

While they made you weak for a short time, they are weak for an eternity.

You will move on to have a normal life. You will be strong and beautiful and independant again.

They will not. They're life is essentially over while they are still alive.

And have faith.

Your sorrow, confusion, shame, anger, and frustration will pass.

You will heal.

And you will be so much stronger because of it.

:o)

Answer 2

Well, 3 weeks is not enough time. Being raped twice is terrible, it shouldnt even happen to you ONCE! You are doing great, just take your time.
Try making plans with a trusted friend for lunch or something, and try to make it a weekly thing. Then, make plans to do something else until you are out and about as much as you were before this happened to you. Just take it at a slow pace, as much as you feel comfortable. Everyone heals at a different pace. But dont stop seeing your therapist, they can help you gain insight into yourself, and knowing yourself makes it easier to help yourself

Answer 3

Congratulate yourself that you belong to a modern society. If you were from the backward the stigma (? as if it is applied to your forehead by you yourself) would have only suicide as a cure. In thuis society at least that is not the case. The society knows what it is. And yet the experience can be equally excruitaing as for a woman in a backward community.The frequent exposure to the attack shows that you are moving in places where the danger is always there e.g. parties, late night outings. Avoid them. If you have to then equip yourself with means of self-defence.You say you have already seen doctors . I am sure you must have ensured that there has been no infection.And just try to forget the experience. As the woman becomes free and moves about this is an inevitable danger she has to face. Take it in your stride. Do not have any hangovers. They kill more than the actual act.

Answer 4

You stated that you've seen a therapist and Dr. but nothing helps. How about a site on the web where you can chat with other people that too have had this happen to them. I was attacked when I was 12, I am now 43, and I still need to talk about it. It does help to get out your feelings. Good luck.

Answer 5

First of all you have to come to terms that IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!! You need to realize that you are better than the people wo did this to you it might hurt to talk about it but go talk to someone you trust it will make you feel a little better and then what you do is pray. You have to be strong and don't let what happen control your life you have to overcome it and live, don't give these monsters the satisfaction of knowing that what they did now dictates how you live your life. You have the right to be afraid, scared, hurt,confused,angry,and sad but they DON'T have the right to control you. I am not saying forget what happen,no you gotta remember and you also gotta forgive them. That will NOT happen overnight or maybe even in years but you have to it makes you a better person. Sweetie realize that you are beautiful outside and inside and that you can overcome this!!
And if nobody else does I have love for you. you can email me if need be at [e-mail] BE STRONG!!!!

Answer 6

Hi have you ever thought maybe u attract this somehow...? I dont know, I am a male and have been raped at knifepoint.. I dont think it particularly affected me in the long run, but when I look at the situation, I find I am far far too trusting...and hence I blame myself for what happened. I was a virgin, and in a foreign country where there was no help. I hope things pick up for you, it was just a thought that crossed my mind. I see so many girls walking around and acting flirtatious, and wearing mini skirts and getting drunk etc. and I wonder why they portray themselves like that...it is just an invitation sometimes for guys (not me, I turned out to be gay anyway). Be more wary of men!

Answer 7

i understand you and know where ur coming from. MY best freind got raped before to and at first it was rlly hard for her she also didnt even wanna leave her house. But then she discovered to look above and be happy again and not to worry anymore cuz life is to short and i hope those guys who raped u are serving justice=)

Answer 8

oh how awful...maybe you can find someone to talk to you over the phone and then when you feel comfortable to leave the house trying meeting with the therapist...Maybe a Dr can give you some anxiety pills until you feel more comfortable...

Answer 9

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Answer 10

try these: www.rainn.org
this is a list of counseling centers just for rape near you.
800-656-HOPE (800-656-4673 sexual assault hotline..they can help you more than any of us EVER could..they are trained pros..I am also a rape victim..this is NOT your fault. You did not ask for this nor did you dress wrong or do anything else wrong..Call these numbers..let them help you..GL