Being a girl, with siblings, your parents tell you that they want more grandkids and you were going to be the next kid to have kids. But, you would rather use your life to find out your lifes goal and go places in it. You would rather not, because you don't feel like you wouldn't be able to raise them right and you want to move around, and travel, and you don't want them because of the world we live in.
2006-12-15 10:29:22 · 7 answers · asked by amazon 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a young mom (21 w/ 15 mo. old girl) and let me say, children are a HUGE responsibilty... dont take me wrong, i love my daughter & wouldn't trade her for anything, but if you have plans, take care of that first, you don't want to wind up like some people, resenting your child because you couldn't accomplish your lifes goals (not that u would, but some people do) i have had to postpone college for my daughter, i can live with that, but could u live with putting off your dreams? consider this, because a child will take up 95% of your time & energy..... do it for yourself, not for someone else, that is NEVER a good idea
2006-12-15 12:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well My mother had me at 37, she had seen the world of Europe, but not America. There were three of us and she did it, and we didn't die or get lost. I saw Europe with my family. I have been to many places and Disneyland and Disneyworld. We use to go on Vacation all the time! I have been to most of the 50 states, and when my children are old enough than we will go out and travel. You know the first time I went to Disney? It was in 1988, I was born in 1986...and every year after 1988 I went to Disney. I have seen the Shenandoah valley and the lurray caverns, I have seen the Boston boats and vistied paul revere's house, I have seen the country in Indiana, I got lucky in Kentucky, I've tanned in Florida and California, I gambled in Las Vegas and Alantic city, I've been to west Virginia and I'm not going back. I've seen the world trade center in new york and the statue of liberty. I've seen a regatta in Maine, I visited Savannah and traveled ghost trails, I've been to South Carolina for fireworks, I went to Camp lejune, N.C. I was born in D.C. and I have seen the white house. I have seen all of this and more multiple times even before I turned 15 (except gambling). Each year we went out. We didn't have a lot of money, but we did have a great time! Children don't slow down your traveling, they make it better.
2006-12-15 18:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of 2, a licensed foster parent and in the process of trying to adopt and I am ALWAYS the 1st to say that if you don't feel like you want kids, don't have them!
Just tell your parents, and any other nosy person, that right now your choice is to not have kids. Why would they want you to have a child that you didn't think that you were ready to give the world to?
2006-12-16 00:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, but try not to feel like you have to have children because someone else wants you to. In the end you are the one who has to raise them. Have them when you feel you have accomplished what you wanted. When you feel that are emotionally, psychologically and financially stable; and when you are good and ready. I'd also say when you're not raising them alone but some people can be single parents (I can't). Have them when you are ready. Hopefully your parents should understand that you should have children when YOU are ready not because they want more grandchildren. Besides it will be best for your children when you are ready to have them.
2006-12-16 04:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by swtprncess23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling I have two kids with one of them being 11 months and when she was 6 months my sister was already asking me when I was going to have another. Anytime I am not sick but I throw up my mother asks me if I am pregnant. Frankly my husband and i are getting tired of it, and my husband has started to tell my sisters, " no are you?"
2006-12-15 18:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by joan jett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't feel like i have to have kids, but I do feel like punching ppl who ask me questions when I'm going to have them in the face. Repeatedly
2006-12-15 19:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want children, dont have them. just tell your parents that you have goals in life and right now children dont fit in it and they might never. you dont wanna have children if you dont really want them even if someone wants you to have one.
2006-12-15 18:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋