2006-12-15 10:17:34 · 54 answers · asked by exceem2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The dept is from from visa cards and store cards
2006-12-15 11:17:49 · update #1
I depends if you're a shallow materialist or a hopeless romantic. If you're the former run as hard as your legs can carry you; otherwise you'll just end up bitter and more miserly to begin with. If you're a hopeless romantic stay with her and work through the problem together. You can get a lot of good financial advice nowadays. Also it depends on who it was. If it was someone I know I wanted to spend the rest of my life with I'd stay with her. If I thought it was a passing fad I'd let it go. Good luck anyway.
2006-12-15 10:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by thomastalkson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could stay with her because you love her and you could advise and think of way to help her pay off her debt. But do not learn her money to re-pay the debt she got into she must find a way of of it. Also did she tell you that she was in debt or did you find out by some other means if she told you then that is good as it shows that she wants to get help and she trusts you. If you found out about it by some other means then this could be that she was shamed to tell you. However if she wants help then help her out, but try to do so without giving her money
2006-12-16 08:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and money don't connect. But love is blind but not always stupid. There are many wise people who will suggest following your instincts these do exist somewhere between your heart and your head. They are usually right. One needs to be cautious of testing someones Love.
One other point I thought of was if she's earning enough to pay off her debts herself then it's no concern any way.
Love is love how true is your heart, some live for love and some choose a middle more comfy less traumatic road. Ask yourself why you are asking the question and you are sure to have the answer to it.
2006-12-15 10:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by threeatprizley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many women are in this relationship first you ask if you fell in love a woman. Then you say that they were in debt and would you stay with them. If the answer is more than one then dump the lot and get out there like Peter Rocket.
2006-12-15 10:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i don't think it is your business, if the debt was made before you knew her and she is paying it off then what's it got to do with you? If she ran up the debt while you were together and said nothing I would not take this personally debt is stressful and embarrassing. If she is relying on you financially then it's different tell her she must get a job and pay her own debt, if you love her help her see she needs to take responsibility help her budget, help her cut down on spending. If you don't love her, leave.
2006-12-16 04:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends how she got in debt.
If she is a shopaholic? Or had some money problems in the past?
If a shopaholic, she will most likely keep spending. So watch out.. Need a good talk.
If money problems from the past. Go for it.
2006-12-15 10:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by white buffalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hige debt!! But if it is true love both ways you can overcome this. Life is far too short for second guessing. If you want to protect yourself make sure it stays her debt. I guess this meand dont get married till this is settled or get a pre nup that states if thing go pear shaped both of you leave with what you came with. Otherwise go and enjoy yourself before it is too late!
2006-12-15 10:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by mandg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should it make a difference? as long as she is working and is paying it herself and not expecting you to pay it then thats ok, some people have been through a lot worse than that and come out the other end ok so follow your heart and at least sit down together and talk about it that way you will know for sure, good luck, hope it all works out and a merry xmas to you both x
2006-12-17 00:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by MAD FEMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love then what can you do? If she incurred the debt before she met you - you are in no way responsible for it. Make sure you don't put yourself in the position of being responsible for it in any way and support her in coming up with a plan for paying it off. Be helpful and supportive but don't be taken advantage of!
2006-12-15 10:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by inauspicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, it is very possible to get our of debt, it takes work and commitment but the easiest way to get out of debt is knowing that you are loved and that you dont have to go throught the porcess alone. be a gentelman and saty in the relationship until somthing else goes bad. dont worry about the moeny>
2006-12-15 10:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lillian S. Phx Arizona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋