Should a girl tell her boyfriend at some point if she was raped?

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Should a girl tell her boyfriend at some point if she was raped?

(or just someone she's dating.)

2006-12-15 10:07:48 · 14 answers · asked by AK-47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating

I'm a guy by the way. I've just dated quite a few girls who have been and it didn't change my opinion about them but I would start to worry about them more and be more protective. Also, I just wanted to smash on those guys.

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If somebody was raped thats usually an important thing to know.

2006-12-15 10:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

That's a pretty serious thing. If you're just dating a guy, he doesn't have a right to know that any more than he has a right to know who you had a crush on in 3rd grade, or the nickname your parents gave you as a baby ("Little Miss Twinkletoes").

However, if the two of you are serious and you're thinking about sex, then yes, he ought to know about it - because chances are good it's traumatized you and will affect your sex life. If he doesn't know about it, he may be too rough, too pushy or simply too impatient.

Regardless of what you decide, I hope you get some counseling about it, and DO tell someone - a parent, a priest, a school counselor, SOMEbody - before you let this take over your life.

Good luck! This is one of the worst things to happen to someone, but with strength, love and faith you can overcome it.

2006-12-15 18:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋

It is no body's business. Take it from this Grandmother,their is nothing to be gained by saying anything. It would serve no purpose. Dr. Phil would agree, I'm sure. Get on with your life and be careful of the company you keep. Many guys (male and female) out there in sheep's clothing that become real evil when the crowd thins out. God Bless You and have yourself a Blessed Christmas and a Happy New Year~~~

2006-12-15 18:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋

Very tricky question. If she does he may feel he is under an obligation to punish the rapist, or if he enjoys violence he may take this as a good excuse to lay a correcting hand on the offender. The first person to confide in would probably be a female friend or a therapist who can see the thing more objectively and advise then whom to tell and how.

2006-12-15 18:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gibaudrac D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

waaaaaaaaaay down the line. Like right before marraige. Unless the trauma is interfering with the relationship somehow (trust, sex)

2006-12-15 18:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Freakgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋

this depends on you if you are not comfortable with having sex you should so he can be more undrestanding adn go slow now if you dont have a problem with that then its up to you
whatever you decide good luck

2006-12-15 18:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋

if she feels comfortable telling him that, then yes. there are the rare occasions when the man won't run off screaming in terror, and the relationship will be strengthened.

2006-12-15 18:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by wrldzgr8stdad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋

Yes.

2006-12-15 18:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

If you need to tell him for your own emotional health. However you dont owe him unless you are at that point in our relationship.

2006-12-15 18:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋

No. Some things are never to be said, but to someone capable to understand or to someone who needs to know.But if he is to be your husband you must tell him.

2006-12-15 18:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by vldthmplr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋