Recentally my sister became a lesbian. She is all on these chicks @ our college and it is kinda nasty. I have no idea what I should do. Should I tell my parents? Can I get my sis 2 stop being like that? HELP!!!!
2006-12-15 09:59:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not for you to tell your parents....it's her responsibility to tell them when she is ready to come to terms with her sexuality and openess.
It also doesn't matter if you and half the world think it's nasty... it is who she is and doubt that she had a choice in the matter. She was born to be herself..... and that includes her sexual identity.
Love her and accept her...but leave the rest to her.
2006-12-15 10:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your sisters life. Just because you choose not to live that way dosnt mean she has too also. No you cant get your sister to stop being like that its her choice. My suggestion to you is not get in the middle of it. Your sister will tell your parents when she is ready maybe its just a phaze she is going through maybe its something more than that who knows only she does. But if you love your sister you will accept her any way she is. If your not willing to that may come between the relationship the two of you have. You want to be involved in your sisters life not in control. Let her control her life she may make some bad choices but isnt that how we all learn?
2006-12-15 10:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tanner and Leahs MaMa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let it go. You don't have to necessarily accept the nasty and embarrassing behaviour in your presence but you can't change her. Telling your parents is meddling. She needs to do it on her own time. You can't get your sis to stop if this is really who she is. It is possible she is just experimenting which happens a lot in college but it could be her way of life.
2006-12-15 10:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with what your sister is nor the way you feel. Don't tell you parents, because she could just be going though a faze. Telling your parents might make it worse. sit down talk to her and ask her why do she like girls and why did she wait until now to show it.
2006-12-15 10:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by 08081986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you are mad at her cause she wants to be with women or cause she is all over all these chicks at your school. If it is the amount of women she is messing with then sit her down and talk to her. But if its because she is a lesbian than honey you are the one with the problem not her. There is nothing wrong or immoral about being gay
2006-12-15 10:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by bb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business..let her live her life.
She'll still be your sister no matter what.
No one just becomes a lesbian..she was all along.
Show her the same respect you would want.
There's nothing you can do. Hate is a really strong word.
If you just have to have a talk with her...
make it about health and safety...there are issues.
2006-12-15 10:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My worst thing is that my mother is a lesbian and what Did I do??? never talk to her anymore until she be back to normal but she refused so it been 8 years now and she not once see my kids since they were 3 and 2 years old. and tell her sister how you feel and let her know that you do care about your sister not want to see her being lesbo...
2006-12-15 10:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She'll act more in your face the more she sees a reaction out of you. She'll calm down in time - I guarantee it. She give her time to blow off steam and if she makes her a fool of herself, so be it. We all have to be free to make our own mistakes - otherwise we would never learn from them.
I recommend that you focus your attention on you and your life and let your sister get on with hers. It's up to her to tell your parents - I would stay out of it or they might 'shoot the messenger'.
One thing - if you try and stop her or interfere you will either lose her or you will make her much worse and upset.
2006-12-19 10:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is nothing you can really do as hard as it sounds and as much as it sucks, you can not change the way a person is. Talk to her and tell her your not comfortable with her change yet so to stop flaunting it in front of your face. You can tell your parents but its not your secret to share. good luck
2006-12-15 10:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by trsfernandez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im not trying to be mean or anything but you should mind your own business and leave your sister alone. just be glad she is happy and be happy for her. i mean it had to take alot of guts to come out and say she is a lesbian and you shouldnt judge her. plus you will only push her away from you if she feels like you dont agree with her lifestyle.
2006-12-15 10:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by elaine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋