I have this problem everytime a person says no to me I become sarcastic and ironic and try to hurt the other person not phisicly don't get any ideeas , I just try to make them feel as bad as I do....and at the end I feel guilty and say that next time will be different but it isn't .... any advices ideeas on what is happenin in my little brain when I hear no?For me rejection is a b-i-t-c-h.
2006-12-15 09:50:38 · 7 answers · asked by alin_alinta_inimi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a defense mechanism that stems from insecurity. It is intended to protect your ego from the pain of the rejection, and the striking back is the outlet for that negative energy. And a very unproductive one at that. It also validates the initial rejection.
What you need to do is look inside yourself and dig into what your insecurities stem from and eliminate those roots. Then you need to learn that rejection just isn't that a big deal. It happens to all of us every day and in many forms. Don't sweat it, realize it's their loss, and move on.
Next time it happens, stop for just a second before you respond, take a deep breath, then smile and say, "Ok, sorry it didn't work out." Leave them wondering what they just missed out on.
2006-12-15 10:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you evidently weren't said no to enough as a child. And you haven't grown up yet so you haven't learned that you can't always have everything that you ask for or want.
If you don't get a handle on the problem, your going to start noticing less and less people dealing with you at all. IE friendless, loveless, etc.
The best advice I could give you is to grow up.
2006-12-15 17:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to grow up babe. I have bad news for you... If you don't grow up and accept you cant have everything you want you will live a very lonely life.
Take a step back and have a good look at yourself.
2006-12-15 18:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by shamoolax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! I do the same thing. We just have to give our heads a shake and get use to the fact that we can't have everything!
But you know...I waaannnnttt ittt!
2006-12-15 17:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're having the same reaction as a 2-year old, only your language is probably worse.
2006-12-15 17:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u do it simply because ur angry at the situation and the person ur bringing down is invoved in bringing u down.
2006-12-15 17:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by flavagirl711 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your probably a jackass, jackass
2006-12-15 17:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by don b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋