how did you overcome it as an adult?
2006-12-15 09:50:37 · 8 answers · asked by cdrfish6002 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well i am still a teenager so ya. But i don't think i ever will. After about an hour she would say she was sorry and it would never happen again but it kept happening. I just told no one. When we would get into a fight not fist fight she would say you should be thankful that you don't have parents who beat you and i would just think were you there when that happened???
She stopped hitting me around the age of 9. When i was about 6 i ran to the bathroom and i puked cause i felt sick that one day.... she jut threw all my food on the floor and said clean it upp you bi***.................. Me and my mom are distante because of all that. If ou would ask my dad where he was i would say leaving into the bedroom to go to sleep and drown out the sound of a child screaming in pain.
I can't stand tghem for that and i can't wait to move out!!!!!!
2006-12-15 10:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad. You have to remember that your mother is/was a very sick to treat you that way. You cannot control other people and their actions, but can only control what you do based on what you know and have experienced. You have to forgive her in your heart first--even if it is terribly hard and go on with your life validating the good person you have become. Should the cycle of hatred continue within you towards your children, then realize you need to get help before you damage them.
2006-12-15 18:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my mother how I felt. She insisted that she didn't do anything wrong, however continued to do the same things, so I just went away. I tried to have a "civil" relationship with her but that didn't work, so I moved as far away as possible and try to have little contact with her, but then she complains to my aunts about how ungrateful and unappreciative I am, etc. so they call me. I think I might have to move to another country.
2006-12-15 18:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by asalston84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that helped me was forgiving her, without any hatred for her. My mother didn't abuse me that much but she always had sth against me, & sometimes said things to me that were very shocking. But I understand it was all her pain inside & I guess she didn't know how to deal with her pain.
I hope this helps,
lots of luv
merry xmas
2006-12-15 18:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by glgl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy and taking resposibility for my life now! I had to understand that what happened to me as a child was not my fault and I had no control over it. However I have complete control over my life now! I can choose to be a victim or can choose to create what I want in my life.
2006-12-15 17:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got in her face and told her a few things ;)
Haven't talked to her since about 6 years up until last month. She has changed and so have I and I can live with it. My motto is "Life is a dream and when you wake you find it is only hell because you made it so".
2006-12-15 18:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOTS of therapy. The best thing anyone said to me was, "Just because she is your Mother doesn't mean you have to like her"
2006-12-15 17:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i decided not to be a victim.
2006-12-15 18:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋