Taking a Break?

Question

Ok, so my girlfriend and I go to separate colleges and were trying to make this work between us. But as of late, it has been going kind of down hill. And I was suppose to go with her to her home in another state for winter break and she said that it would be in our best interest to just take a “BREAK”. What does break mean to you? Now I will quote something that she said exactly…”I’m still and will be faithful to you its just that were not treating each other well and I deserve a break from it”.

Does taking a break mean that she is actually taking a break? Or does it mean that she could be testing her waters? And if so should I be loyal and take her word for it? Or seek the waters as well?

STICKY situation that I hate, and don’t enjoy seein. I just dont want to be lead on and hurt...

Advice would be great. Thanks!!

In the midst of all this ive been texting her and writing her emails and all that and I'm starting to feel like im bothering her...

should i just forget about it??

Answer 1

I'm in somewhat the same situation. My girlfriend and I met while we both went to the same college over two years ago, I was a sophmore, she was a freshman. Last year I ended up having to transfer, and the first semester we were apart we were all good, talked to each other all the time, saw each other as much as possible. But this past semester, she has been hanging out with alot of her guy friends from her classes, and everytime I brought up how much it bothered me she said I had nothing to worry about they were just friends. Well we started arguing and bickering over stupid things alot, and recently she admitted to me she had sex with one of the kids she claimed I had nothing to worry about. Long story short, since I learned that has been he hardest couple weeks I've ever had to deal with, but she has said she made a mistake and she just wanted to feel loved from someone because I wasn't giving it to her anymore. We've been broken up since, but are trying I guess to reconcile and see where everything takes us. Naturally my trust in her has plummeted and will take alot to regain, but she's been talking and expressing alot of how she feels and I think we both realized what was wrong with our relationship and how to fix it. I don't know how long you've been together but I would guess she might just want to see what her life could be like without you in it, or possibly with somebody else instead. I made the mistake of being led on, and got extremely hurt in the end, so proceed with caution and try to figure out the real reasons why she wants to take a break.