my husband and i have been married for 17 years he got sick about 11 years ago he was even put on a med were we had to sgin a paper that we would not get perg. well that was 9 years ago he has not touched me and said that i put to much in to it he has been fine for about the past 4 or5 years so i told him that we are together or i will find someone eles i do love him but i need to be held and so on is this wrong i am only 37 and still have lots of love to give and would love to give it to him but he does not want it help
2006-12-15 09:38:56 · 13 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know exactly where you are coming from. This might be one where councelling will help, if both of you want it. It may be too late though.
2006-12-15 09:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with needing the human touch. But men tend to be VERY insecure in this area and tend to believe if they can't have it all then they don't want any. Maybe counseling would help. If he is unwilling then at least get it for yourself it will help you understand and help you make the tough decisions.
Keep your head up and Blessed Be
2006-12-15 17:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by harmony moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need some counceling to find out why he doesn't want to be intimate with you. As for not getting pregnant there are various options to keep that from happening. Some (surgical) would be 100% effective.
2006-12-15 17:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and etc, etc, etc? But, then again, this is the 21st Century. And vowels we make to and before God, means nothing theses day. But, God honors them.
Did his emotional change take place before or after he started taking the med's. It sounds to me like he's having a side effect of the med's.
2006-12-15 17:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by n_007pen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest counseling for both of you, and even if he won't go with you, go yourself. If he refuses to face up to this situation, then he has left you with 2 choices: 1) stay with him and accept a marriage without intimacy, or 2) leave him to find someone that will fulfill their marriage vows.
2006-12-15 17:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Turnhog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the doctor who treated him and put him on the med way back when. Maybe hearing it from "the horses mouth" so to speak, he will see he has nothing to worry about and can meet your needs.
2006-12-15 17:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry to hear give you much credit for lasting as long as you did can't give advise on that one seek cousoling maybe?
2006-12-15 17:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been well for four or five years? Go for it girl. Kick his a'ss out and get you a man. Kisses Betty.
2006-12-15 17:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time you looked for a new husband, he has broken his marriage vows, both religiously and legally. You indeed have grounds for divorce.
2006-12-15 17:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him,i know thats harsh,but you have to think of yourself too.
2006-12-15 17:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋