This is no joke, i need help, how do i increase my confidence without alchohol?

Answer 1

Hun you seem like a confident person for asking that. I'm guessing you go out and feel like you want to say something and it is witty and funny and someone gets in before you. Just be you and say what you think don't be scared, if people are offended or uppity then its because you have surpassed their intelligence, I know it probably sounds run of the mill but be you and get your personality out there. Its hard sweetie but it works. Stand by your opinions and back them up no one can knock you for that. You have alot to give an don't let shallow, showy people put you down. Take care xx

Answer 2

A number of years ago when I once weighed over 325 lbs I would drink and of course get drunk in order to do those things that I could never do when I wa sober,all because I did not like myself.
Then one day I woke up and my outlook was totally different.I knew that for other people to like me I first had to like myself and it was apparent I did not like myself.Once I started to like who I was and accept me for the way I looked and the way I am then I found that it was never the booze I needed to give me my confidence,it was something inside of me that I needed to see and believe in..I needed to believe myself and that is what I did.
I have not drank for many years now although I am classified as an alcoholic and I am able to hold my head up high and enjoy the life I have been given.Best part was that I had no more hangovers to deal with so waking up in the morning seemed to be so much nicer than it was when I would wake up and still feel drunk.Honestly if you allow your personality to come out and let others see you as you really are the alcohol will no longer be needed by you.I also noticed that when I was drunk I would be told about the dumb things I would do upon sobering up and that would only make me feel worse.At least when I am sober I can remember exactly what I have done and know that I did it with a clear mind and full knowledge of doing it without regret.If I think I am going to regret something I am about to do then I can just walk away and find something to do that is more suitable and exceptable to a life I enjoy now.

Answer 3

Take an art, a dance, or a martial arts class, help out at a community center, write poetry, talk with a friend about how you are feeling, etc. Keep reminding yourself that there is NO confidence at the bottom of an alcohol bottle.

Answer 4

Hey. I just saw your question and It bothered me. Im sorry your confused, because Its very hard to not be sure and have to ask, hopeing you get a straight answer. Look, start by looking at yourself In the mirror, place your hand on your heart to feel It beating. Tell yourself that your gonna try, and If you fail, you'll just have to keep trying. I abuse pills and I suffer with emptiness and worry, so I can understand substance abuse. Say a prayer and try to believe. Your alive so your beautiful, remember, others have It way worse. Look at our Troops In Iraq getting beheaded. Its hard to tell and i don't have the answer, but all I can tell you Is to try to be strong on your own. You need that confidense. Good-luck.

Answer 5

You can volunteer give back in an area you have interest in. (i.e. Children, homeless, elderly, animals) By doing good for others and meeting people who have the same interests in you will be able to see that you don't need alcohol to be confident.

Answer 6

Do an activity. People will get to know you without the affect of alcohol and you will have something to distract you from wanting to drink. Good luck.

Answer 7

GET INVOLVED. Nothing will make you feel better about yourself than helping improve your communtity or the people around you. Volunteer at a Nursing Home and paint the ladies' nails, help out at the animal shelter, be a foster parent.

Answer 8

Develop a talent that you can be proud of like playing the piano, dancing, singing, painting etc. This gives a feeling of self worth.

Answer 9

Theirs lots of things you can do to boost your confidence.... get a hot new outfit, some great shoes, update your hair, start working out, eat a healthy diet, etc. etc. pamper youself, if you look good, you feel good =)

Answer 10

For me, regular exercise (intense cardiovascular--for at least 45 min. 4-6X/week) and weight training (15 minutes per day--focusing on different muscle groups each day) has done wonders for my confidence. You feel so much better!!!!!