I just don't get it. Doesn't make sense to me.
2006-12-15 09:18:33 · 24 answers · asked by indianacoltsgirl88 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always seem to get my hopes up only to be let down. I wonder sometimes if it's even worth it.
2006-12-15 09:34:51 · update #1
When you're acutally desperate and looking for love, you tend to overthink things and look for love in all the wrong places instead of letting it flow naturally. But when you're not looking for love and learning how to fulfill your life in other ways, you naturally find someone and the sparks fly high and bright because you know you're with them because you want to be, not because you are desperate.
2006-12-15 09:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by katgirl_4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love shouldn't be something that is browsed over like items on a store shelf. Somebody looking for love is comparing 'a' to 'b', 'b' to 'c', etc.
Love should hit you full in the face when you're not looking. It should be unexpected and true and earnest and unforced and natural. It should be if its meant to be not targeted and bought.
A very rare happening indeed but a good speculation on your part. Hope you find what you're not looking for :o)
p.s. you better hope your Colts get their run defense straightened out before the playoffs or it'll be another early exit!
2006-12-15 17:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by kjbopp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love's not meant to make sense... Love isn't so much about seeking it as it is appreciating the opportunities that come along your way.
Ever heard the story of the butterfly. If you try and chase after it, it continues to flutter away from your grasps. However, if you stay still and calm, it may land on your shoulder. Love is like that butterfly. Its presence is fleeting yet it's up to you to appreciate once you have it.
Enjoy life for what it is and love yourself. People will notice and will more likely beoome better acquainted with you ;)
peace
2006-12-15 17:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ebones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common misconseption.
Analogy: you're at the mall:
1. scenario 1- you're just walking through to get to the movie theater, not to shop, and all of a sudden, you see an awesome purse in of the stores!!!!
you absolutely love it and buy it.
2. scenario 2- you're at the mall looking for a purse, looking, looking trying to find the right one, the perfect one. Finally after a day or days worth of looking you find it.
It's kind of like "law of averages"
So you see, if you look or search for it, versus, letting it find you, you will notice misfits and imperfections or will get mistreated (because when you're desperate (even if you're not, with this type of attitude, people will assume you are), you'll grab on to something that isn't worth it, just because you looking for something and you "need" it.
People sense that, and most of them will take advantage of it (not necessarily on purpous, you know, just because it's there).
2006-12-15 17:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you give, the more you get back. The more you keep, the more you loose.
I think love is something like that. If you keep in mind that you are looking for someone, you'll just get frustrated that the persons you like don't like you. If you just let everything happens naturally, which is very hard but possible, time will give you both chances to understand each other and fall in love.
2006-12-15 17:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by popcorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard the saying, "love comes to those who wait"? Personally I believe when you're looking for love, your too caught up in everything to really see anything in front of you, but as soon as you stop looking everything becomes clear. Your mind is no longer focused on it. When you're thinking about it you're trying too hard to get something. You fret over every detail. But when you let go and be yourself is when people see your true beauty and that is what attracts them. well this is what I think. Take care!
2006-12-15 17:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Legs0891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know. I totally agree with you. That is really weird though how and why that happens because every time I try so hard looking for love but it never come to me. Then when I am not really caring and not really into it, love comes to me. You have a really good question. Let me know when you have found the answer. leazngurl@yahoo.com
2006-12-15 17:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about the element of surprise because we all know how surprising life is and love is just another thing with wich life tries to surprise us..But I think that everybody is looking for love but some are just to busy to seek it or some found allready or worse looking for love but not knowing that it's right beside you.
2006-12-15 17:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by alin_alinta_inimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever notice when you need something that you lost urgently you never find it and when you are not looking for it you happen to stumble upon it; I guess that is how love is. Sometimes when you search and search and it could be right there in front of you miss it.
2006-12-15 17:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by babie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. Its weird since at times I'm not afraid for a releshionship but right at the moment were I start to get shaky about it I'm asked out. Its all upside down and backwards.
2006-12-15 17:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Blab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋