I am not proud of this and I could use prayer and advice?

Question

All of us have faults and shortcomings and christians are no exception. I curse and have a foul mouth and I can get very testy angry and mean to God with the things I say. I get very frustarted and I sound off with bad words. I have tried everything prayer, swear jars, fasting when needed and I cannot seem to kick this nasty skanky habit of cursing. God has been good to me and yes I know I am human and have faults but I know blessings and cursings cannot come from the same tongue what is your advice because I am a deacons wife and I need to be an example and would not want to bring anyone down. I have been struggling with this awful sin for many many years. I have gotten a tiny bit better but still have aways to go. I also want to stop cursing because it offrends and hurts my husband and I want to be a godly wife not a foul mouthed wife. Thank you and God bless you.

Answer 1

Sounds like you are working on your own IMPATIENCE and realize how easily you do get frustrated with your surrounding environment, REGARDLESS whatever the situation may be.

Try a simple EXPERIMENT to let off some steam: Use or call out NUMBERS instead of your typical CUSS WORDS. Start it off by counting s-l-o-w-l-y from "1" to "10" EVERY TIME you get IMPATIENT...

It has worked for others. See if that works for you, too.

Peace be with you.

Answer 2

I think this is a problem for a lot of people. You need to turn away from cursing totally, that means tv, books because it's just all over the place. Also, I would try learning a new word daily to replace the words you are giving up. Increased vocabulary can eliminate the swear words. Lastly, of course, continue to pray. It's working because you said you are getting better and because you are not happy with continuing to use this language. You know you will falter, but don't give up. You can beat this!! Good luck

God bless and Merry Christmas.

Answer 3

You have my prayers. My wife struggles like that as well. Just do what the Bible says and repent. If you feel like you need to ask your husband forgiveness then do it. Read James, 1, 2, and 3 John. I think you'll find what your looking for in those small books. Also Proverbs 31 is the Chapter of the Wife of a Nobel Character. That should bring some comfort and direction to your soul. We arn't perfect and Jesus know that. When he stumble he's there to pick up the pieces and sends on our way.

Answer 4

Hold this thought perpetually. The image and likeness of God is without curses or a foul mouth, and you ARE that image. You are not really the lie that says you have a foul mouth and are a mortal, hopeless sinner, and that is just the way it is this time around. Hold fast to the truth that God knows, and the evil will vanish from your thought. You will feel better too.

Answer 5

Continue to pray God will help you soon. In the mean time whenever you feel the urge to swear use other words instead of cursing. I curse also which most times its because I get angry, but of course its no excuse. Instead of D*mn try Darn or daime, might sound stupid but it helps, also just do the best you can not to swear when u feel the urge to, God + Your own blessings = clean ways. Its hard to do everything God asks of us, best thing we can do is do the best we can. :)

have a Merry Christmas

Answer 6

First of all, don't take yourself so seriously. Plenty of people swear and are still devoted to their God. Swearing is just a way of expressing emotion. True, it doesn't always sound the nicest, but it's not as big of a "sin" as you are making it out to be.

If you really want to cut back on the habit (and I call it a habit because that is exactly what it is), politely ask those around you who swear to keep it to a minimum. When we are surrounded by certain people for long periods of time, we tend to pick up their way of speech. I believe in this whole-heartedly, since I've been in college for two years and have picked up many of my roommates's habits. The less you hear swear words coming out of the mouths of the people around you, the less tempted you will be.

I'm aware that some people don't have this ability, but since I do, I'll suggest it. Before you speak, plan out what you're going to say. If you automatically start talking, you'll be more apt to let a few swear words in there.

Good luck, and remember...SWEARING is not as bad of a sin as you are making it out to be.

Answer 7

Skip the prayer -- not because God doesn't exist (I don't think he does, but you do and that's the important fact), but because it is easy not to feel accountable to a being we have faith will forgive us no matter what.

Next time you swear, look at the nearest person, even if you were not swearing at them, even if they weren't part of your conversation and say something along the lines of, "I know you aren't part of this conversation and you were not my target, but I apologize for swearing and bringing such ugliness into our shared situation."

Most people will look at you like you're crazy and confusedly mutter a hurried and insincere forgiveness (insincere because frankly they don't care and only seek to be polite).

A few will shrug and just mutter a 'dont mention it'.

And a rare person will have the brass to explain, "Yes, yes you did bring that ugliness into my environment. Why did you?" When this happens, simply hang your head in shame and admit, "Because I am human and I am not perfect."


Why all this? Because it's too easy to rely on God's forgiveness knowing that he is all-forgiving, when it is our fellow humans we have actually offended... and they may not be so quick to forgive, and we definately as humans don't generally find apologizing comfortable.

Answer 8

I told my teenagers that it is much more impressive to come up with something witty to say, then to swear. Swearing just makes people look uneducated and improper. So, what else we did was come up with alternative words to use instead of swears. It takes some practice, but eventually you'll get the hang of it. Here are some examples:

Jesus Christ- either cheese & rice or Judas Priest
holy s***- Holy schnike
F***- fudge
God d***- gosh dang
son of a b****- son of a bisquit or beaver
F***** A- freekin A

Just a few examples we use around here. I use freekin a lot. Or make up words yourself that work for you. And then practice them. I'll be freekin praying for you.......

Answer 9

I too used to have a terrible tongue until a friend asked me once if I speak like that in front of my mother... My answer was, "of course not". "Why then", he asked, "do you talk like that in front of God" WOW!!!!! what an awakening for me! He suggested using other innane words in place of the fowl. It worked for me. They also say that you can tell an educated person from one who is not by the descriptives they use. I am sure you would not want to be seen as a dummy!!! Good luck and God Bless

Answer 10

Continue to pray for help from God. I am very touched to know that there are people who try to change their short comings but not by themselves, but with God's help. Every time you are tempted to swear, think about another way to vent anger that wouldn't be a sin. It is not wrong to be angry but to act badly when angry. I really hope that you will be able to overcome this sin. I will try to remember to pray for you, but that is also a shortcoming of mine. God Bless.