He cheated on me a year ago. I found out and I knew it was only once because bothof them told me that. Well last weekend me and him were on E and he told me he f*cked her 5 times. and I cant forget about it. I havent forgot anything it still haunts me everyday. I have been with him for 3 1/2 years and i want to just forget. Certain songs, sights, colors, names, streets, cars, and eveyrhitng reminds me but i pretend it doesnt. i need help, serious help.
2006-12-15 09:14:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are such a loser. You should have dumped him a year ago. Forgiving him means that you're OK with him cheating again.
You need to dump him and move on and find another man. By the way, you need to re-evaluate yourself as well. There is a reason he cheated, and the reason is you. If he was completely happy at home, he would have never cheated on you.
2006-12-15 09:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the more sensible here, you either have to decide to stay and deal with it, or leave and start again. This could cause problems in future relationships as well, because your trust of not just your current man, but men in general will be tainted unless you handle the problem now.
If you can't forgive him, then it might be best just to tell him that you need to move on. Go out and get to know yourself. Get to know what you want and what you will and won't deal with in a relationship.
Once you make up your mind NOT TO ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY, you will have achieved self respect and personal growth.
Then the right man will come along that wont treat you this way.
By staying you have taught him that he CAN treat you this way, and you will keep taking him back.
You've already done it once, why wouldn't you do it again?
He will cheat again, sweetheart. He has shown you who and what he truly is, so believe him.
Best of Luck to you,
J
2006-12-15 09:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Let him go it might be hard but remember after the rain always comes the sunshine. You deserve better. He will always cheat on you as long as he knows that he can say he's sorry and then everything is better. As soon as he thinks you have forgiven him he will do it again but he will think of a way to do it with out you finding out.
2006-12-15 09:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs don't help anything, including relationships.
thats a much better reason to stay off them than anything else I've ever heard. And away from people who do them. If you can't forget, you can't forget, find someone else who won't get high and cheat. At least a drugfree guy can give you a new excuse. That drunk/drugged one is getting tired
2006-12-15 09:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you will never forget. Neither will he. You will need to decide if you can forgive and move on. If you can't, you will be haunted for the rest of your life. He needs some to be seriously accountable to you for a long time. I suggest you both get couples counseling. If he refuses then you go yourself...and pay attention to a man who may not desire to do that.
2006-12-15 09:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely what you are going through. My ex cheated on me with several women. I was so hurt that I could even stand to look at two people have intercourse on TV. Any love making scene reminded me of what he was doing with them. Try counseling and maybe you will be able to decide if you want to continue in the relationship or bail out.
2006-12-15 09:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way,cheat on him,get it out of your system,that way you are both even,and then he'll feel the same way you do.He broke your heart,and that's something that just isn't going to mend.what's the harm in payback.Just remember payback is a B**ch.Do it 5 times.After that move away,that way you won't have any memories,it's something that can be forgotton.Hey;you learn from your mistakes,what else can a person learn if you don't make them.
2006-12-15 09:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Smurfette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about him, he lied about how many times he slept with her, and 5 times can not be " a mistake"..I understand you don´t want to leave him because of the time invested in the relationship, but you´ll be happier in the long run...I also think some people are not able to ever overcome this and you might be of of them...good luck
2006-12-15 09:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters are like smokers, they never "quit" , they always have the urge, and they either just don't have one for a while or get better at hiding the habit.
You'll never forget. He violated your trust. As long as you SETTLE for a guy like that, you will never find the guy out there that will always treat you right. Remember what it was like BEFORE he cheated? You can have that feeling back...with someone else.
2006-12-15 09:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to leave because the trust is gone and all the pain will do is fester and eventually everything else will fall out of place and you'll see him in a different light. Only the light won't be a pretty one. My ex-fiance and I had the same issue...note I said ex.
2006-12-15 09:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋