There's this guy and he's my best friend. But we fell in love. but theres a catch we cant date b/c one of my best friends is in love with him too. So we talk on the phone, computer, etc. everyday. well we both really wanna date each other but as you can see i have a real problem here. so we told each other just to date other people until my friend gets over her obsession. so he started dating this girl. but me and him are still just as close because we promised each other we would never let ne1 come between us. and this girl has a problem with that. she said she better not see us talkin or she'll break up with him. well she's seen us about 1,000,000 times and they're still together, so shes obviously all talk. i just dont know what to do b/c it seems like hes really starting to get into this girl and hes been all hateful and moody this week. i just want us to be as close as we used to be. HELP ME!!!
2006-12-15 09:11:54 · 22 answers · asked by ♥SO Happy♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would first ask the guy whether he's serious about the girl. try to keep him happy, but dont sacrifice ur dignity. no guy is really worth that. talk to the girl, shes just probably insecure because she can tell u guys are realli close. if both you and the guy realli wanna have a relationship, then talk to ur girl best friend and let her know what's up. hopefully she'll understand...GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-15 09:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rach12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This intimate compromise is not working, because it's not what you really want. For this girl to be jealous you two must have serious sexual tension or you're overly intimate with each other. You should talk to him and find out where your hearts are. If you want to date each other, then date each other and have a mature talk with your other friend (she might get upset, but if she is a real friend she will understand). If you and he are going to be friends, then be just friends and nothing more; let him know that true friends are hard to find and he can't let his girlfriend push you out of his life. But stop jeopardizing your friendship by trying to please others with an awkward plan that doesn't stand a chance at working.
2006-12-15 17:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by hotgirl2_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it probably wasn't the best idea to have him go off dating other people. That's not fair to the new girl he's seeing now, is it? Just talk to your friend, and if she truly is your friend she'll sit down and listen. But before any of this goes on (talking to your friend) you need to talk to your guy to see if he really IS still interested in seeing you or not, because if he isn't then there isn't any point in possibly ruining a friendship with the girl.
2006-12-15 17:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, does your lover friend love, or even like, your other friend? If she's the only problem keeping you guys apart, then I don't see what the problem is. Yah, she'll be mad, but if you guys really want to be together, that will be worth it. I've been through this so many times. Trust me, it will all work out in the end.
2006-12-15 17:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kt Press 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all friends are true to each other, so if I were you then I would sit down with my bf well in this case your bf and talk to her face to face and lay out the cards on the table. This is your side on being a bf. From her side then she would just have to deal with the idea of him not falling in love with her but you, and having to accept it. I think that is just plain stupid and I am sorry to say it that you guys deal with this situation by hiding your feelings and dating other people.
Just act like grown ups and deal with the situation face to face.
2006-12-15 17:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you dont want to hear it, but it really is the best, and most obvious answer.. anybody who makes you feel bad about yourself, or any part of your life, isnt worth having in your life, period.
If he's started to disrespect you, he's not worth it. I'm sure thats the hardest part of it all to hear, but its true.
If his girlfriend doesnt want to see you two together, then he needs to either get rid of you, or you need to get rid of him. If your friendship with him is so special, and these two just started dating and she's already telling him who he can and cannot hang out with, but he continues to be with her, then he doesnt view your friendship as anything great.
As for your bestfriend who likes him, just tell her you like him, and he likes you. If she has a problem with that, then there isnt anything you can do.
Sigh, isn't growing up in this generation so much fun?
2006-12-15 17:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to get past the control comments of others. You need to do what is right for both of you. It sounds like you may be in the "younger" generation. But just the same people need to be honest with themselves, and you can't make everyone else happy at the sacrifice of your own truths.
2006-12-15 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by simple_intelligent_female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Show stopper, don't stop the show by doing anything to break your friend is his girlfriend up. Just be his friend, and if he wants you, he'll let her go. Til then, don't depend on that moment and start dating other people. For all you need, he could get jealous and want to be with you.
Krazy Libra
2006-12-15 17:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating others until your friend is over her obsession with him is stupid. act responsibly and let your friend know that you two have something going. this guy is messin' with this other girl is not fair to her. stop playing games and do the right thing. otherwise things will just get messier.
2006-12-15 17:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he needs to lay down the line, with your friend and with this girl. first of all, he needs to come out and tell your friend that he's flattered but not interested. then he needs to tell his girlfriend that you are his best friend and he's gonna talk to you regardless. after being turned down you friend should give up, leaving him to ditch the other girl for you.
2006-12-15 17:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋