this is a first time offence, what happens next?
2006-12-15 09:11:45 · 55 answers · asked by GILLIAN H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you let it happen a second time, it's your fault. Don't ask for sympathy. Leave him. Leave him. Leave him. I hope your son is ok.
2006-12-15 09:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 16⤊ 1⤋
It depends on a variety of factors.
The police will treat this matter seriously, as it involves a child. There has obviously been a decision that there was enough evidence to charge him, now the police and the Crown Prosecution Service will have to decide whether there is enough evidence to prosecute the matter.
If there was little harm done, they may officially caution your partner - if there was harm, then they will be likely to prosecute. If the matter comes to Court, the likely sentence depends on the circumstances, but where the offence is committed against a vulnerable victim such as a child, it is always more serious than an adult assaulting another adult. If convicted, your partner will be identified as having committed a violent offence against a child and may be viewed as "dangerous to children".
Did you witness the assault and have the police spoken to you? If so, you may be required to give evidence if your partner pleads not guilty and the matter goes to trial.
If they have not been up until now, Social Services will undoubtedly be contacting you. The Children and Families team will need to ensure that your son is safe, and will want to know what you have been doing about this situation. You are the parent and have responsibility for your son's welfare. What action do you intend to take?
Finally, in all too many situations where children are hit, the woman is already being physically abused by her partner. If there is any kind of context like this, TELL THE POLICE NOW. It's not going to get any better and could get worse, placing your son at greater risk.
2006-12-15 20:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by purplepadma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone noticed that the questions says "my partner" and everyone responds with "kick HIM out?" Men are not the only people who hurt children, it could have been a woman. Just a thought. Anyway, if your partner has been charged in a criminal court for physically abusing your son, it had to have been pretty bad. You truly do have to pick between your son and your partner at this point. They will not be allowed to live together, at least for awhile. So either you kick your partner out and keep your son or stay with your partner and let your son go to a foster home while you work things out with your partner. If the person charged is not a parent of the child, the court will order that person to have no contact with the child. If the person is a parent, the court will most likely order supervised contact until the perpetrator completes anger management or counseling or whatever is asked of them. Please consider if you want to be with someone who physically abuses your child. People don't just randomly beat a kid up one day. It is a result of many factors and the "it will never happen again, honey" line is often not what actually happens. Chances are it will happen again with either you or your son or someone else. Is this what you want for your child?
2006-12-15 10:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not 100% sure, but there will definately be a hearing of sorts. you will more than likely get a visit from a social worker to access the situation.She is the one you will have to explain the circumstances to, and she is the one who will make your case! As your partner has been charged, there will definately be some people investigating the situation. Your child will be placed on a register. I hope this situation is a one off event ... you say first time offence! But is it the first time your partner has assaulted the child? Its hard to say for certain .... but as long as you stick to the truth and look on the social workers as trying to help you, you should be able to come to a happy ending for ALL!
2006-12-15 09:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by lynne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you divorce him, ask for sole physical custody, and get a child support order ... and then he does some jail time.
Ha! I didn't read. I thought you were actually MARRIED. Well, that makes things easier. You kick him out, tell the cops where to arrest him, testify against him, and then go back to being a mom. Hopefully this time around things will go better. Work on your character evaluation.
That's what should happen next. For him to actually be charged with assault, that must have been some beating. Whether you believe in corporal punishment or not, willingly HURTING a child is not acceptable punishment.
2006-12-15 09:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he harmed YOUR CHILD!!!! you should be praying he gets locked up and legging it straight out the door. It is your responsibility to protect your son and you shouldn't still be associating with him as your partner. There is no excuse for harming a child be it of a mental, physical or sexual nature. There is never a one off it may be a first offence but if you allow it it will happen again. Leave him and seek legal advice!
2006-12-19 02:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by niccog26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good explanation for hurting a child. It is difficult from such limited details to go futher to speak to u on this. At the end of the day, childrenj are defenseless against adults. Your first responsibility is to your child, as difficult as your child may be. AND they night be tremendousley hard work. Don't let answers here put u down. Parenting is the hardest thing in the world and everyone is quick to judge. If u need to talk please feel that u can and I would be happy to chat. BUT physical assault is a verty serious thing and especially so to a yound child. Don't feel alone. I can not give u any answers but I can listen and give you honest answers.
2006-12-15 12:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It goes to the Crown Prosecution and they decide whether they have a case, if they don't think it is good enough, the case will be dropped and he will be let off. If you are prepared to stand up in court and act as a witness to the event and if your 7 year old has had his bruises recorded by a doctor or hospital, there is a slim chance it will go to court. I was assaulted by a stranger on my front garden. I was able to identify him and I showed all the bruises etc to the police, they arrested him, he told his version ( a pack of lies) the crown prosecution threw out the case. There is a violent man on the loose and nobody cares. I am sorry, I have very little faith in the law of this land.
2006-12-15 09:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by patsy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you never, ever allow him/her near your son again. What's next? Let your son know what was done to him was terribly wrong and you love him too much to ever see your 'partner' again. It will take a while to make him feel safe. Let him talk about what has happened. Don't allow yourself or your child to be around for the second offense. I guarantee you, there will be one if you do.
I'm very sorry this has happened. The monster who assaulted your child may be let go on bail if he is not a flight risk or a danger to anyone or himself (yeah, irony). If so, I strongly advise you to get a restraining order. I know you may still have feelings for your partner but anyone who would assault a 7 year-old child should be put down. Get support from friends, family, but do not allow yourself to go near this person again.
If the judge sets a high bail and he/she cannot pay it, be thankful, for you and your child. This should go to court and I hope you will pursue it with everything you have to prove to your child you will never allow anything like this to happen again. Unfortunately, most of these idiots get off with probation. Try to get yourself a good lawyer, or see if anyone in your area does pro bono abuse cases.
Never, ever allow this person near your child again. For those who tell you, "Oh, they'll arrest anyone these days, just for tapping your kid on the butt", recognize it for the bulls**t it is. Noone gets arrested, unfortunately, unless they seriously bruise a child, and most often even not then. DSS is full to the brim and many abuse cases are pushed to the side. Noone, including you, should ever lay a hand on your child.
I hope you do well by your child, by your soul, and by yourself.
All the best.
2006-12-15 09:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Me, Thrice-Baked 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hi,you make it sound like its ok to be a first offence?Instead of asking this question you should be doing everything in your power to get the bastard! locked up.Like everyone else has said to leave him,its your duty as amother to protect your Son and also i would not be asking for answers on this i'd be down at my solicitors.KEEP HIM AWAY! The bastard! needs castrating!
I Wish you both the best of look in making sure this bastard! peado can't do this again and hope even through this you have a Merry xmas and better New Year x
2006-12-15 11:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by scouser 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im going thru this exact thing myself. For gods sake get rid. My ex partner used to beat me up then started on my eldest. As i result the Social Services have taken all 3 including my newborn 5 days after birth, due to my failure to protect. I have been fighting for them back for 6 months now and hopefully they will be returning late Jan. Please dont let this happen to you, because if he assaults his again in the eyes of the law you will be as responsible as him. It will be hard & I sincerely wish you the best. Good Luck Hun. x.
2006-12-16 10:09:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋