I am not proud of this and I could use prayer and advice?

Question

All of us have fautls and shortcomings and christians are no exception. I curse and have a faoul mouth and I can get very testy ansty and mean to God with the things I say. I get very frustarted and I sound off with bad words. I have tried everything prayer, swear jars, fasting when needed and I cannot seem to kick this nasty skanky habit of cursing. God has been good to me and yes I know I am human and have faults but I know blessings and cursings cannot come from the same tongue what is your advice because I am a deacons wife and I need to be an example and would not want to bring anyone down. I have been struggling with this awful sin for many many years. I have gotten a tiny bit better but still have aways to go. I also want to stop curisng because it offrends and hurts my husband and I want to be a godly wife not a foul mouthed wife. Thank you and God bless you.

Answer 1

It sounds like it would help if you were to deal with your old resentments to me. Pray that God will make them clear and make a decision to forgive the offenders. I mean you must be angry. See if there is any anger management material in your church library. Apply the 12 steps of AA to your problem and let your higher power be Jesus and Father God and the Holy Spirit. Those 12 steps are great for conquering any problem.
Continue to pray.
I think it is great that you are trying to deal with your problems/sin to be a better witness for our Lord. This is very hard for people and it takes courage and strength to examine our selves. Even though your mouth is not as clean as it should be I'll bet God is very pleased with you for examining your life like that.
You go girl.
God Bless You,

Answer 2

The tongue reflects what is in the spirit. As a pastor's wife, you should know this already. Fill your mind and heart with the things of God, and the filth will fall away.

Why haven't you approached your husband about this? Surely he's the first person you should go to, both as husband AND pastor!

Also, do a study on Strongholds. That should help.

Answer 3

I understand. When I was married, my husband swore a lot, the F word was a second language to him. I started to swear all the time, not just out of anger but just will everyday words. Of course I could control it, I wouldn't swear in front of my parents, my relatives, police, employers, etc. But with him and our friends it was part of our conversations all the time. After our divorce, I gave birth to our son. I didn't swear for 2 years. Then I started getting swearing when my son would do 'bad' things. I started to loss control and use the F word in front of him, actually at him. As he grew older he'd ask what those word meants. I found out that I could not tell him not to swear and still swear myself. That's like smoking or drinking in front of your kids yet preaching to them the harms of it. I was being a hypocrit. I gave my son permission to tell me to stop, shut up, yell, pinch me, whatever everytime I swore so I would become aware of it. The first couple of days he pinched me so much that I had bruises. The next few weeks he would like say "Mom, you're swearing again". Now I rarely swear. I don't say the F or B word. Sometimes I say damn or sh*t but then I apologize right away.

You just need to find a way that works for you. Swear jars don't work. Let them pinch you or you have to buy them a dollar item for each word, or you have to walk around the block for each word (even in the rain or the snow), you have to clean the tiolet or something disgusting that you don't like to do. Yet don't swear while you are doing it either :) Talk with your family for advice and suggestions. One of my friends allowed her kids to swear like her just the same amount like her. After 4 days she was so embarrassed and sick of hearing all the swearing that she quit cold turkey. Being a wife of deacon shouldn't make a difference. No one should be swearing badly and out of anger. Then the anger is controlling you. Maybe you can talk to a professional for anger management. Swearing can be an addiction. Read about addictions like smoking, drinking, gambling, sex, spending money, etc. and treat your cursing like another addiction. Use the advice of other addicts to take control of yours.

Good luck and God bless! I'll keep you in my prayers!

Answer 4

i imagine it truly is a difficulty for a good type of persons. you want to exhibit faraway from cursing completely, which ability television, books because it truly is purely everywhere. also, i'd attempt gaining expertise of a sparkling note each and on a daily basis to change the words you're giving up. higher vocabulary can eliminate the swear words. finally, for sure, proceed to wish. it truly is operating because you reported you're starting to be more effective and when you consider that you're not to any extent further pleased with persevering with to apply this language. you comprehend you'll falter, yet do not provide up. you are able to conquer this!! good luck God bless and Merry Christmas.

Answer 5

My word of advice would be to think not only how this affects other but how it effects God. Also what would the unbelievers think if they hear us talking liek that. They will think we are hypocrits and not want anything to do with us. IM not trying to make u feel bad but thats what popped into my head so I felt I should type it. I hope everything goes well.

From A fellow Christian

Answer 6

This is one of those things that I call devil traps. It's a fleshly quality about ourselves that we cannot control on our own. Satan uses these things to trip us up and question our Christianity. God is the only one who has the power to help you with this problem. You have to give it completely to Him, and let it go. Trust Him to take care of it. Be aware at all times of what you say, and think before you speak. Ask God to give you wisdom. That's one prayer He always seems ready to fulfill!

Answer 7

Very simple, first when speaking to someone picture yourself talking to CHRIST in person. When you're by yourself pray to GOD for help with your problem, just remember not to curse as you are praying.

Do you hear what these children are saying?" they asked him.
"Yes," replied Jesus, "have you never read,
" 'From the lips of children and infants
you have ordained praise'[a]?"


Jesus is the truth, the way and the life!

"Hear O Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is One"

(Shema Yisrael Adonai eloheinu Adonai ehad)

Answer 8

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." (James 1:19)
Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips."............................................................................................................................................................................................................. If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless." (James 1:26salm 141:3) Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell." (James 3:5-6 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring"? (James 3:9-11 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)
Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly." (James 3:1)

"But I tell you that men will have to give account on the Day of Judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. (Matthew 12:36-37 NIV) Just a few sobering scriptures to meditate on. Please understand that I am in no way being condeming---I struggle with the sin of lust myself.

Answer 9

Why dont you go before the church and tell them your problem? That should scare you enough to watch your mouth especially if you know they will be watching and praying for you. The bible tells you to bear each others burdens.

Answer 10

find out what your angry about, who disappointed you as a child, and why are you seeking that kind of negative attention now to get your needs met?

There are healthier ways to get those same needs met, that will cause a better life, rather than a worse one. Right now as it stands, you are probably only attracting losers into your life, losers suck the life out of everyone they relate with and can only give back that negative attention you so crave.