Two people went on a blind date and the bill was split between the two. Fine. However, after that first blind date they have been on many subsequent dates and the guy has never offered to pay for the entire bill. The girl did pay the whole bill one time on her own. Is it rude to bring the topic up of paying while on a date? If not and assuming you start talking about it, is there any way to say that the guy should pay sometimes without sounding like a spoiled brat?
2006-12-15 09:01:51 · 12 answers · asked by Veronica 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ok some people don't get it. This isn't about picking certain words out of my question and going off on an inspired tangent on women's right to vote (suffrage) or a man approaching a woman about cooking and cleaning. Which makes no sense in the realm of this question, by the way Derek. This is about a guy never offering to pay for a date. Not even one HE asked to have. I paid for the one I asked to have.
I guess I gave myself my own answer.
2006-12-15 09:25:30 · update #1
Kick the man to the curb. The guy is a schmuck! If she continues to pay, why would she want to be with him?
2006-12-15 09:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by moveandlose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First blind date....alright, I guess I can see splitting the bill. Although on my blind date, not only was he late, but he did pay the whole bill. As we dated, paying was not an issue, sometimes he would pay, sometimes I would pay. I think that we saw eye to eye on this subject, which is why after seven years, we are still together. But, I do not think it is bad manners to bring it up. Honestly, the guy sounds like he either does not make a lot of money, which I hope is his reason, or he's cheap....
2006-12-15 09:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by SM M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he can't afford to pay the entire bill. In that case you have two choices: 1) Pay half without complaining about it or 2) stop seeing him & find somone who can foot the whole bill.
Guess it depends upon how much you like the guy.
With prices being what they are today, I would have no problem paying 1/2 the bill. In fact, I would probably suggest it if we continued seeing each other.
2006-12-15 09:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No not really, because it's up to the guy to offer. Consider the circumstances- does the girl have a better paying job than the guy? Is she the one suggesting expensive restaurants? If no, then it just means the guy is a cheap weasel. I would consider not dating him anymore, or at least not getting serious.
2006-12-15 09:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it is bad Manners to Complain, however it is a Mature Adult to make a One Time Conversation and Discuss candidly with your Prefered Date Partner. Simply State that WHenever you go Out that you would Prefer Always Having Seperate Checks. If One Insists on Paying it is Excellent Manners for the Other to Graciously PAY THE TIP
2006-12-15 09:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by taylorparton 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I think things should be split equally. You shouldn't expect someone to buy you dinner.
But, if you want to try to get them to pay without asking, then the next time he invites you to dinner say you're a little low on cash... maybe he'll just offer to pay for it. If not, I say just continue splitting it. Unless he's just being a mooch it shouldn't be a relationship ender.
2006-12-15 09:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Gen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a good idea to discuss who will pay before they get there. This avoids the awkwardness of talking about it when the check comes.
(My personal philosophy is that whoever asks for the date should be willing to pay, but they can discuss it after that.)
2006-12-15 12:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How does HE bring up the subject of expecting you to do the washing, cooking and ironing once you are married?
Welcome to the wonderful world of equality. It's what you've always wanted.
2006-12-15 09:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just to keep whinging and whining commercial talkback radio and Limited News in business.
2016-05-22 21:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of suffrage? want to get paid like a man, then everything else should also be equal. don't pay for the bill by yourself again. deman equality if you want it.
2006-12-15 09:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by derek v 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋