my sister has to kids and 1 on the way and shes very close to my mom and my father and its really all based due to she has kids and im not very close to them cause i dont have kids.. like the call her all the time to see if they want to go do something but me nothing.. its like no matter what i do they are always gonna be more proud of her no matter what i do untill i have kids! and i dont want kids! how should i come to them with this?
2006-12-15 08:58:34 · 21 answers · asked by Jessica H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ooooooooooooo I can DEFINATELY help you with an answer there! I have parents that are the same way. They never call and I have THREE children. It really hurts when im with my sister and her phone rings and mine never does. They have always showed favortism towards my sister and I was like you hoping when I was ready to have children that the interest would change...but guess what...IT HASN'T !!!! Its actually been worse! And I will tell you it hurts much worse when you have three beautiful children always on their best behavior, that Grandparents have no interest in. And they LOVE my parents and continully ask why they are not around or if their "Nonna" is coming or why their Papa doesn't call. I was a very good child and always longed for their love and attention. I never asked for money or ANYTHING even as a highschooler...I would pay my own class fees...My sister is needy to this day and they continully complain they feel used...but guess what...they still call her and still she is who they favor. But my sister has always gotten it. Im sitting here now wondering why we haven't been invited to Christmas and NOTHING has happened between us...just distance...Children will not make it better and are a HUGE responsibility for the rest of your life. Sadly enough alot of parents just have favorites and usually a matter of not knowing how to relate to the other sibling or child I should say. I know my father acts out of guilt alot...or better yet doesn't act because he feels to guilty to face me. ...like not inviting me for Christmas. I have just realized I have to make my own family and even take in my own friends because they care more about me than my own family. Treasure them, love them, they are your parents but DO NOT do as I have done and base your self worth on their presence and interest in your life...it will kill you...just keep them at a distance and who knows maybe they will eventually come around.
2006-12-15 09:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by lullabyforthree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the exact same boat! Except I do want to have kids. I ended up going to my Mother and telling her, but things never did change. But it also has been like that with everything. My Sister went to University and I was a drop out and blah blah blah. I went back to school finished high school went to college and everything. We're just officially Black Sheep! Even if I did have kids I still don't think I would get any attention. But bring it up to your parents tell then whats important to you in your life. Hopefully it will make a change.
Good luck!
2006-12-15 09:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good reason to have kids. First of all, are you married? How are you going to get pregnant if your not? If you are, does he want kids right now? Parenting is a full time job that will never end. Think very hard before you decide to become a parent. You're whole life will change.
2006-12-15 09:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by michele31tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you offer to babysit the kid(s) or take them somewhere fun like the park or chuck e cheese. If they like you then maybe they will ask for you to be around more. Talk to your sister about it and let her know that you want to be more involved with the kids.
2006-12-15 09:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT have children if you don't want them PLEASE!!!
Just tell your parents that you are feeling left out and are feeling less important b/c you have no kids. Tell them you would like to be included more. Then you make an effort as well to join in, call and be a good Aunt.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-15 09:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by orchidshel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not about that with more children comes more need. I come from a large family myself and it is always the youngest or the grand children that require the most attention. Make plans with them dinner or theater and if they say no then you have a problem.
2006-12-15 09:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell them. Is it you don't want kids at all, or just not now?
Be honest and tell them though. Kids are not for everyone and a lot of people never have kids because it does not interest them and they have careers, etc.
Cheers!
2006-12-15 09:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by wyatt_bellis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jessica there is no reason in the world for you to have kids,if you're not ready.If you do have the kids,and you're not the perfect mother(like your sister),what will your parents think of you then?
2006-12-15 09:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 20:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by papen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats the best reason in the world to have a kid..... maybe you can have it with that guy who's leaving town and you'll never see again.
Grow up! And quit being easy!
2006-12-15 09:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋