So I hooked him up with a good friend to get him out of temptations way. She's knows that we had feelings for each other and felt funny at first getting with him. Now it did not work out between him and her and he's at me to see him. I have separated from my husband. But he has been dating my friend for months. I'd rather ask her if this is okay. But it was just recent they decided it will not work out. But he's impatient to spend time with me. Am I wrong to go there? Should I wait...should I just plain forget it all together?
2006-12-15 08:51:12 · 15 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
addition: im not in it for the relationship..i kept from sexing him because i was married and my friend knew all the details before i set them up..me and him were semi-physical prior to them hooking up..we like to hang out...my question is basically would it be wrong to have sex with him...but that would prob be worse...thanks
2006-12-15 09:04:59 · update #1
I'm old fashioned. I wouldn't date until I was legally divorced. But, if you want to date anyway, I would definitely ask the friend if she would mind. There are other fish in the sea besides this guy.
2006-12-15 08:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a bad idea..I know there's chemistry between you too but have some kind of loyalty to your friend. Men come and go. Let's say you guys hooked up and it didn't work out and you're "going through" do you think she will want to listen to you gripe about what a jerk he was...she'll think that of you. Even if she says it's ok, don't do it.
what if it had worked out with them? would you still be after him then? Well there are plenty of men out there. Don't stifle a friendship over this one. Leave it alone for sure!!!!
2006-12-15 08:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. Why would you want a man who could so easily disrespect his wife. I am sure that you are a beautiful intelligent person and could find somebody who would be worthy of your love and attention. A married man will always have baggage and from reading your question you have enough of your own. Back off and forget it if you know what is good for you
2006-12-15 08:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, you're wrong for going there. But...your friend did know that you guys had feelings for each other, so she knew going in it could be a sticky situation.
But it sounds like you and this guy really want to be together, so i think you should go for it. Ask your friend how she feels first, and if she's okay with it, then go for it.
2006-12-15 09:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by SweetMahogany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it would be wrong to spend time with the guy, just hanging out. I dont mean plans all the time, but whats wrong with going to a party together? So long as no one gets hurt, your both single so.... it's good.
2006-12-15 08:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're still married, just keep it casual, do time will give you a better idea about things. having a husband is a reason not to get involved with another man. don't let the other guy pressure you, is totally not fair of him. if he really likes you he will understand the reason to wait.
2006-12-15 08:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking your friend would be best... but give her some time to get over him. You can not expect her to be excited about it at first, and if she tells you that she does have a problem with it you have to respect it and move on. Men come and go but friends are forever.
2006-12-15 08:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you and if the other girl is a good friend then you have prob. talked about him and the feelings before. and your separated so there is no shame in getting back in the dating game!
2006-12-15 08:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by noel22f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go there you lost your friend,for sure her heart will be broken,knowinig her friend is takinig her sloppy seconds.Do you really thinks it's right.I think that guy justs wants to get in your pants,obviously he cant keep a good relationship,what makes you think it's going to work with you?ask yourself these questions.Think
2006-12-15 08:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Smurfette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date him. You shouldn't have been that close a friend in the first place. Get over your first marrage mistake and learn why it happened before you start another relationship.
2006-12-15 08:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by sm4125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋