Ok this is going to be quiet a long one but please be patient with me as I have lost all hope. Well I have been seeing this guy and it’s coming to be 4 months which great because my longest ever relationship was 3 days lol. But on a serious note I feel a break up coming. During the 4 months we have seen each other 4 times we mostly speak on the phone. Right now I haven’t spoken to him for 5 days he never rings me but has the audacity to say I don’t ring which I do but he never picks up. Whether he purposely avoids my calls or not? I don’t know. He doesn’t live far from me and I understand we are student and money isn’t on our side but I don’t care about things like that. I always drop everything to see him when he asks me too. For example he would tell me he wants to meet up tomorrow and he wont call for another five days. I don’t know what to do I love him and he says he does aswell but this is not a relationship this is a big joke! im feeling so hurt!
2006-12-15 08:49:51 · 27 answers · asked by Confuseddotcom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
END IT NOW. HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND ALREADY
2006-12-15 08:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I would say it is over. next time he calls. And he will. Tell him your busy. You been the giver and he has been the taker.
There can only be a relationship when two parties work at it. Sounds like to me this is a one sided relationship and do you really want a relationship like that?
Quit being so willing to jump when someone calls. And I guess I just come from the old school. I believe the that the woman is not suppose to be calling the man. Let the man do the calling. It just makes it look and sound like you are very needy and easy. Unless you have been dating for a long time. and I mean more that a few months. I don't believe in calling the man. Of course I know things have changed but I still believe its the way you carry yourself, is what kind of men you will attract to yourself.
2006-12-15 09:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by ms_swampy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you talk to him or see him, tell him exactly how you feel. I know this may be hard for you but it is better that you do it now, rather than hang on to something that isn't there. 4 months isn't all that long, but can seem like an eternity, especially when you only communicate on the phone and have only seen each other only a few times. I wish you the best of luck...Hang in there...and keep your head up :) Just remember you can always do better!!!!
2006-12-15 08:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
End something that hasn't really started ? Sorry love, but its
not cooking. Somewhere out there is amuch better relationship for you. It might take a while to find, so don't get stressed about it, but you will look back on this one and wish you hadn't wasted the time. I'm sure you are a delightful person to know, and you deserve better than this. In the meantime, have some fun with your friends.
2006-12-15 08:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't hurt yourself like this. Tell him what you need. Tell him you can't keep seeing him if things stay like this. If he is right for you, he will listen, understand, and hopefully see things from your side as well. Communication is the key to making any relationship work. If he's not believing (or denying) that you are ringing him, then he doesn't deserve you. Stop trying so hard. There is someone out there for you that will try as hard as you do...trust me. I hope he is your guy. If not, you will live, it might hurt, but it is only for a while. Best wishes.
2006-12-15 08:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have only seen the guy 4 times. How can that be love. Second of all you need to trust your gut instict about the break-up coming on. If you feel that it is not working you need to end it before he does. You'll thank yourself later. I can undertstand feeling hurt by his actions. If he hasn't made an attempt to call you back or see you then a bunch of red flags should be waving in your head. You need to let go and move on.
2006-12-15 08:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by Travis S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would end it. You can do so much better. You are correct in saying it's not a realtionship. A relationship is two sided and if you are the only one giving the effort then it isnt a relationship worth staying in. Since it has only been 4 months I would just cut ties if you wait any longer its going to be harder to let him go.
Be strong and if you are unhappy you need to find yourself someone who shows you as much attention as you should him.
Good Luck!
2006-12-15 08:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sam s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say, he might love you and just have an odd way of showing it, or he may not be as in love with you as you are with him, you really need to try talking this all out with him and seeing what he has to say, but if he doesn't get better at calling you more often and taking the releationship more seriously then i would say its time to break it off and move on to someone who will treat you better than that and make you more of a priority...
2006-12-15 08:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Justin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny that you are in tune with him enough to know he is breaking apart from you...if he can't feel your emotions and heart also then it has become a one way love affair. They are not good.
I am in agreement money isn't everything in a relationship.
If he doesn't have the time for you now...when will he have the time for you? They say men don't understand the importance of communication...but if he is not communicating then he is probably already gone...Take care of you now...cause you were so emotionally involved with him..you might become sick. Try to pamper yourself for a little while...
2006-12-15 09:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right that is NOT a relationship at all. Sounds like a bootie call to me. You are not important in his life. If you were you would be speaking to him almost daily and he would definitely make more of an effort to see you. When I was younger and my ex-husband and I were dating. He used to walk 5 miles to my house almost everyday to see me if he couldn't get a ride. I advise you keep your options open, keep looking for someone else cause this guy does not love you. I'm sorry.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-15 08:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by orchidshel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So end it. If the guy is going to stand you up he's not worth it. Just because you've been with someone for four months doesn't mean he's the one. I was with a woman for... I think two years before I figured out she was a psychotic abusive raving lunatic. Congrats on committing for as long as you have, but it looks like the other guy isn't ready for that, and you shouldn't try to force him. Good luck.
2006-12-15 08:55:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋