A guy I know from my fiance's job just left his fiance of three years, after a one night stand at the Company Xmas Party with one of the Company Freak(s). She and her sister have been with several of the employees already!! Her sister is already pregnant w/twins from one of the groundsman. She is attractive, and everybody, including my man, think it's exciting and okay that he'd just up and leave her for someone he doesn't even know!!!
Number 1, I can't believe either one still have their job. You'd think the company would take more pride in their values and frown upon fratinization among employees, exspecially the "married or almost married" ones!!!
What gets me, is that he could believe the grass is greener, just becasue she's hot, doesn't mean the same as the three years he has shared w/his fiance. The ups the downs... the struggles, the rewards! I know he will regret it, and truthfully, I can't wait until he does!!!! What do you think?
2006-12-15 08:49:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably will regret it, at times. He may have already been looking for a way out anyway. As for what makes us guys think the grass is greener? It is the bait and switch tactics used by most women that makes most men look for greener pastures. Most of the time when a relationship is new the female is doing everything she can to keep the male happy. Jumping into bed every time he wants to even initiating the intimacy herself. She avoids nagging him about insignificant things. She does not stand in the way of his other interests and avoids coming between him and his friends. That is the bait, to draw him deeper into a relationship. When she feels she has him deep enough that he can't or won't back out comes the switch. She starts to ratchet down the frequency of sexual intimacy. Complains about insignificant things. Sometimes even tries to "train" him or change him into her perfect guy. She may start to demand more of his time to take it away from his other interests. I am 39 and have been in several relationships. I am currently happily married to my wife of 12 years. The opinions that I have expressed are from my own past experience and the result of many conversations over the years with friends. My wife is an exception as many women are. These women tend to find relationships come very easy for them.
2006-12-15 09:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by iamcowboyeehaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality of the situation, is that men look for other women because of a biological reason. You see women must be really choosy who they mate with, after all when they get pregnant, thats it, they can not cancel and try to get a better baby, they can have only the one baby at a time, so it is in their best interests to choose a good healthy partner (and probably well off partner) to provide the child with health and wealth.
The situation with males is very different. If a man gets one woman pregnant, he doesn't have to stop there, it is possible to get another pregnant, and another, and all the children be born. So to keep the race going biologically it makes sense for men to "cheat" and the ones who do would be more successful than the ones who dont (if by success we mean reproduce more). Since this trait will be passed on more successfully than the trait of being faithfull, this is the main reason why many men cheat.
Many believe that we have outgrown these biological things, but really millions of years of evolution is a very powerfull thing.
2006-12-15 17:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by MARTIN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men are the only ones who think the grass is greener. Women are exactly the same.
But I take your point. Why do either men or women think the grass is greener. You know what I say?
"If you think the grass is greener, good luck and have a great time. If you decide to come back, I won't be here".
Cheers!
2006-12-15 16:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by wyatt_bellis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is definitely always greener. Until you get caught cutting the grass. Then you in trouuuuuuble.
It's a penis thing. A hormone thing. It's hardly even our fault.
A side comment though. Getting a side piece pregnant? That's so f'n stupid. Use a condom, ya nutball. And if your 'man' hangs out with dudes who've done that, he's probably just as stupid.
Ditch him. And give me a call.
2006-12-15 16:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by mck642 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they think the grass is greener, they just think it's different grass. In this case, it sounds like everybody's used this girl as their front lawn, so it won't be long before the guy who left his fiance for his hoe is finding someone else has been watering her plants behind his back!
2006-12-15 16:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it another way. That guy's fiancee should be celebrating her good fortune because she discovered the kind of jerk he was BEFORE she married him. If he comes back with his tail between his legs (as he very well might) and begs her to take him back, and she does, all I can say is she deserves what she gets. Unfortunately too many women are sucker enough to get all jelly-knee'd when the guy who did them dirt comes crawling back, swearing that he will never do it again. He had it in him to do it the first time. Nuff said.
2006-12-15 16:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by sharmel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are feeling urges to sleep with other women is the exact wrong time to get married. You are mistakenly thinking he wants to marry this crazy chick. He doesn't, she just reminds him of the freedom he is not ready to give up.
Since when should employers stick their nose into their employees personal lives and judge their romantic decisions? You act like it's a cult, it's just a way to make money! I would not want to work for a boss that held my personal life up to professional scrutiny. I want to work for a boss that wants me to help him or her make lots of money!
2006-12-15 16:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their stupidity make them think the grass is greener and normally that's not the case
2006-12-15 17:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the proverbial "grass" is greener or trimmed or shaved but that doesn't make her a women worth leaving your wife for.
2006-12-15 16:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is greener because on his side, the grass is wilted and dead.
2006-12-15 17:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋