I am always waiting for the right person to come along, and as a result I have not dated a lot of different woman and I am a 25 year old virgin. I am told I am an attractive guy and have a good personality. I am in decent shape, as I am involved in martial arts and am a 2nd degree black belt. Anyway I am shy about the fact that I am a virgin and keep it secret, Im not sure if I should be that way or not. Girls get confused when I don’t jump into a physical relationship with them off the bat like most guys would. Anyway, I think this is why my recent relationship ended because she did not know this and I was shy about getting physical.
So my question is this:
1.Is male virginity a turn off / Turn on?
2.When in the relationship should this information be revealed?
3.Should I keep it secret?
4 How would you react?
Thanks.
2006-12-15 08:46:19 · 23 answers · asked by Answerguy44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is all very subjective, so it's gonna be different for every girl.
1. For me, it's a definite turn ON! From what you've described about yourself, you're not some fat, loser guy who plays video games all day and picks his nose- that kind of virgin is a turn off!
2. I think you can tell the girl once you've gotten to know her at any level. You should only tell someone if you are comfortable telling them something like that. If you are not comfortable enough to tell a girl you are dating, you probably shouldn't be dating her! An especially good time would be when the girl tells you she's a virgin (or how many guys she's slept with).
3. I don't think you should keep it a secret. If you were my BF, I would want to know! There should be no secrets in any relationship, especially if you want things to be serious, and eventually want to get married.
4. I'd be like "oh my gosh, wow, so am I!" maybe disbelief, because I pretty much think no guys are virgins anymore. It takes a lot of courage and self control to be a 25-year-old virgin (unless you are that fat, loser guy who lives in his parents basement, and works at mcdonald's)
BTW, I'm a 25-year-old virgin, but a girl!
2006-12-19 02:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by nikepatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's obviously going to depend on each issue..but i would say that you are pretty much going to be looking for a girl in the same boat, or at least near the same boat.. sorry, but you're not really going to want one that has been around the block if you have saved yourself thus far..
1.Is male virginity a turn off / Turn on? it's neither. it's a preference..and it's a matter of what each person is looking for in a relationship. we've all had our first times, and bascailly if you find someone you actually want to share this with it will be something she'll be okay with.. that's what will make you want to be with her. sure it might be awkward, but i would LOOOVE to hear someone's first time who wasn't a bit awkward.
2.When in the relationship should this information be revealed? when a relationship starts to get serious and heads for the sexual line it should be discussed..esp if you plan on waiting for marriage
3.Should I keep it secret? don't keep it a secret. it's not something you should be ashamed of..but i think it's along the same lines of not kissing and telling.. the whole world doesn't need to know.
4 How would you react? i would be a little shocked (simply b/c i'm amazed how many 11 year olds aren't virigins) but i would think it was pretty cool that you have decided for yourself, and also kept to that for you.. it's an awesome display of self control.
2006-12-15 09:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know if it's a turn off or on for me, you should tell her when yall' start dating/talking, never keep it a secret...it just means that you have more respect than most guys..they would just rather jump in the sack with a girl than getting to know them, and you sound like you aren't like that, me personally i wouldn't react to that, i used to think something was wrong with me when i was 18 and still a virgin, I myself used to keep it a secret also, then a guy told me that is something you should be proud of. So be proud that you are still a virgin, no matter what age, if a girl doesn't like that then you should know right off the bat that she isn't the girl for you. Good Luck!
2006-12-15 08:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by nikki_77327 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - It is not a turn off to the right person. Who cares what the "wrong person" thinks!
2 - You will reveal this information when the right time provides itself. You obviously haven't found the right person to share your virginity with. Give it some time.
3 - I wouldn't keep it a secret, you will know when to reveal it to the right person.
4 - If I liked you and we were of similar mind I wouldn't care. Every one was a virgin at one point in their lives!
I actually respect that you aren't sleeping around. You'll benefit from it.
2006-12-15 08:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by SixEldest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Its a turnon....But only to the girl you will marry! Please dont loose your virginity now. WAIT for her! It will be worth it!
2. You should be honest up front and tell her why your waiting. Trust me if she thinks its weird then her morals are screwed up.
3. No Its a great thing DONT KEEP IT A SECRET!!
4. I would feel like I was dating a very respectable man. There aren't many of you left in this world so hold out.
It gives me some hope that there are guys out there like you. Your saving it for someone special!!! You dont just jump to it like every guy I know. You are for sure something special!
2006-12-15 08:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg im a black belt in karate 2. Um depends.... you should like kno something about it so you dont end up embaressing yourself. It should be revealed when the topic of sex comes up. No don't keep it a secret! And yeah. I wouldn't date a 25 year old.
2006-12-15 08:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by *smile* =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I'm turned on thinking of all the tricks and things I could teach you.
2. Personally, I'd prefer to know this before we got anywhere close to doing something physical.
3. You should not keep it a secret.
4. I know I would be surprised, but I think pleasantly so.
2006-12-15 08:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Depends on the person. For me, I'd rather wait till marriage.
2. Whenever you feel it is necessary to tell.
3. No. It is something to tell to make sure that girls don't make you feel uncomfortable.
4. I would rather date someone I know won't jump into a physical relationship.
2006-12-15 08:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah that's a turn on. If I know a 25 year old hadn't had sex before then first off, he doesn't have anything I catch from him. Second, He's not going to be comparing me to his last lay. I would tell him as soon as you are ready for that type of talk. I would be totally excited to hear that. BTW - I am proud of you. Great job, I was 19 and I though that was late.
2006-12-15 08:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your personal choice really and you don't have to justify it to anyone. Wait for the right girl and you will be glad that you did. If you really care for her and she feels the same way for you, she can help ease you into all that comes with the "physical" part when you are ready. Could be a turn on for her too considering she will know you haven't been with every girl in town!
2006-12-15 08:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Apes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋